Not Your Average Counsellor

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Welcome to ”Not Your Average Counsellor,” hosted by Vee Vinci, a Mental Health Wellness Expert and Registered Relationship and Family Therapist. Here, Vee takes you on a journey of self-discovery and personal growth, delving deep into the challenges of personal and relationship dynamics, helping you understand the reasons behind your thoughts and actions, and empowering you to create a more fulfilling life. Vee’s approach is refreshingly straightforward and effective. Tune in to her candid, deep, yet humorous conversations covering various important topics, including Navigating Well-Meaning Meddlers, Preventing Burnout, Breaking Free from Negative Thought Patterns, Coping with Trust Issues, Mastering Communication, Fostering Intimacy, and much more. If you’re looking for valuable insights, practical advice, and a new perspective to improve your relationship with yourself and others, ”Not Your Average Counsellor” is the podcast for you. Join Vee on this transformative journey, one episode at a time. read less
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Episodes

Parenting Partners: Navigating Parenthood Together
05-08-2024
Parenting Partners: Navigating Parenthood Together
This one is for couples who have embarked or are about to embark on the exhilarating roller-coaster ride of parenthood – the ups, the downs, and everything in between. Join me and Chelsea Morgan, (Counsellor, Teacher, Rapid Transformational Therapist, and Mum) as we share practical tips, tools, and insights to help you navigate the unpredictable waters of parenthood with resilience and unity. We discuss: How you and your partner can remain a team in the transition to and throughout parenthoodThe value of surrenderThe effects of sleep deprivation and juggling caregiving responsibilities, and how to handle these challengesNavigating identity shifts and keeping romance alive amidst the chaos (spoiler alert: it can be done, it just looks different)Practical frameworks and conversation prompts to minimise reactivity and defensivenessWays to divvy up parenting responsibilities fairlyHow to make time for self-care without feeling like you’re neglecting your familyThe importance of leaning on support networks when the going gets toughand so much more! No matter where you are in your parenthood journey, if you’re keen to build a stronger bond with your partner and create a supportive, stable and enjoyable environment for your family, this episode is perfect for you. I hope you enjoy this episode! Let me know, share your thoughts on stories and tag @veevincitherapist If you're interested in couples therapy? Check out my Creating Intimacy counselling program that has helped more than 100 couples regain connection, passion, respect, understanding and trust. Additionally, if you would like to know more about Counsellor, Chelsea Morgan and the support she offers check out our website and reach out to book in a session. If you aren’t following me on the socials, I invite you to join me on Instagram, Facebook and LinkedIn. And finally check out my counselling practice and services offered here.
Intimacy: More Than Just a Wink-Wink, Nudge-Nudge
22-07-2024
Intimacy: More Than Just a Wink-Wink, Nudge-Nudge
When you hear the word intimacy, what comes to mind? If your thoughts go straight to the bedroom, you're not alone. But intimacy is so much more than what happens between the sheets. In my latest podcast episode I sit down with Sexologist Erika Shaw for an open and honest conversation about the true essence of intimacy. We’ll chat about: The real deal on intimacy: It’s not just about the physical stuff.Creating intimacy: What you really need to build a strong connection.Red flags: How to know if true intimacy is missing in your relationship.Self-love: Why your relationship with yourself is the key to intimacy with your partner.Emotional connection: Tips that actually work to strengthen your bond.Communication: How to talk to each other to boost intimacy.Reigniting the spark: Finding desire in what you already have instead of looking for something new. So, if you’re curious about deepening your relationship or just want to understand intimacy better, this episode is perfect for you. Tune in and learn how to connect more deeply with yourself and your partner through our juicy conversation. I hope you enjoy this episode! Let me know, share your thoughts on stories and tag @veevincitherapist If you're interested in couples therapy? Check out my Creating Intimacy counselling program that has helped more than 100 couples regain connection, passion, respect, understanding and trust. Additionally, if you would like to know more about Sexologist, Erika Shaw and the support she offers check out our website and reach out to book in a session. If you aren’t following me on the socials, I invite you to join me on Instagram, Facebook and LinkedIn. And finally check out my counselling practice and services offered here.
Evolution of Priorities: How and Why They Change in Relationships
18-06-2024
Evolution of Priorities: How and Why They Change in Relationships
You know that feeling when everything in your relationship feels just right? But then, suddenly, things start to shift, and you're left wondering why? Well, it often comes down to evolving priorities. In this podcast episode, I explore why our priorities shift and how this impacts our relationships, because relationships aren't static, they grow and change just like we do. Understanding these changes can help you navigate your relationship more smoothly and keep it thriving. I’ll also: discuss the different stages of a relationship and how our priorities shift through each phase – from the early Honeymoon Period, when everything feels new and exciting, to navigating significant life events that can test even the strongest of bonds;share real-life stories and practical tips to help you manage these stages and life transitions. For example, I'll talk about how a couple might handle a career change, the arrival of a new baby, health challenges, or pursuing a new passion; andchat about so much more! Listen now to learn more about how to keep your relationship strong amidst all the evolving priorities and changes life throws your way. I hope you enjoy this episode! Let me know, share your thoughts on stories and tag @veevincitherapist If you're interested in couples therapy? Check out my Creating Intimacy counselling program that has helped more than 100 couples regain connection, passion, respect, understanding and trust. If you aren’t following me on the socials, I invite you to join me on Instagram, Facebook and LinkedIn. And finally check out my counselling practice and services offered here.
Couples' Guide to Financial Harmony with Special Guest Breanna May
03-06-2024
Couples' Guide to Financial Harmony with Special Guest Breanna May
Ever feel like money talk in your relationship sets off a ticking time bomb? This podcast episode is all about defusing that tension and finding financial harmony with your partner. In this episode, I'm thrilled to have Breanna May with me. She's an educator, business mentor, mindset magician, CEO, speaker, and the mastermind behind the Money Mindset Program. Together, we dive into our personal money stories and share how we handle financial matters in our own relationships. Plus, we discuss the everyday support we offer to others dealing with similar challenges. Here's a sneak peek at what we cover: Breaking money taboosWhy your personal relationship with money is crucial for your financial health as a coupleCommon reasons couples struggle with money and conversations around itPractical solutions to money issues that start with the basics—not just the numbers, including: Discovering your individual and shared values and narratives about moneyHaving meaningful conversations about money by thinking of it as a person – exploring how you talk about it, how you feel about it, and what you say behind its back, along with insights from your upbringingPinpointing what's important to you both as individuals and as a couple, then setting financial goals together We also touch on the parallels between shame around money and sex/pleasure, especially for womenAnd so much more! It's a conversation packed with insights and practical advice that will no doubt help you and your partner navigate the financial aspects of your relationship more smoothly. I hope you enjoy this episode! Let me know, share your thoughts on stories and tag @veevincitherapist To find out more about Breanna May check out her Instagram, website and sign up to her Money Mindset Waitlist here. If you're interested in couples therapy? Check out my Creating Intimacy counselling program that has helped more than 100 couples regain connection, passion, respect, understanding and trust. If you aren’t following me on the socials, I invite you to join me on Instagram, Facebook and LinkedIn. And finally check out my counselling practice and services offered here.
Mastering Miscommunication: From Texting Fails to Expecting Your Partner to be a Mind Reader
06-05-2024
Mastering Miscommunication: From Texting Fails to Expecting Your Partner to be a Mind Reader
Get ready to laugh, nod along, and maybe even facepalm as we tackle one of the biggest relationship roadblocks: miscommunication. Yep, we've all been there, expecting our partner to magically read our minds or completely misinterpreting what they're trying to say. It's like a comedy of errors, but in real life! From those confusing text exchanges to the dreaded silent treatment, I've got stories that'll have you saying, "Yep, been there!" But hey, I'm not just here to point out how we get it wrong. Nope, I've got your back with some tried-and-true solutions. Throughout the episode, I'll be dishing out practical tips to help you overcome those communication hurdles and deepen your connection with your partner. From mastering active listening to sprinkling in a little vulnerability in your convos, and even fine-tuning your texting game, my latest episode is your playbook for relationship success. So, what are you waiting for? Dive into my latest episode now and discover the secrets to smoother communication in your relationship. Trust me, your future self will thank you for it! I hope you enjoy this episode! Let me know, share your thoughts on stories and tag @veevincitherapist If you're interested in couples therapy? Check out my Creating Intimacy counselling program that has helped more than 100 couples regain connection, passion, respect, understanding and trust. If you aren’t following me on the socials, I invite you to join me on Instagram, Facebook and LinkedIn. And finally check out my counselling practice and services offered here.
Trust: The Unspoken Language of Relationships
22-04-2024
Trust: The Unspoken Language of Relationships
You know that feeling when everything just clicks in a relationship? That's trust at work. It's the secret sauce that keeps relationships steady and strong. But here's the kicker—it's often misunderstood. In this episode, I'll dive deep into the essence of trust, revealing its critical role not only in romantic connections, but also in friendships, family dynamics, and work relationships. I'll show you how to cultivate trust, setting the stage for stronger, more meaningful connections in every area of your life. But that's not all. I'll also pull back the curtain on trust and expose what truly undermines it. Spoiler alert: it's not always what you expect. While infidelity and dishonesty certainly erode trust, the real culprit is often the lack of consistency and reliability—the small, everyday things that we often overlook. From keeping promises to remembering the little details, it's these tiny acts of consistency that either build trust up or tear it down. So, whether you're navigating trust issues or just want to improve trust in your relationships, you will want to listen to this one. I hope you enjoy this episode! Let me know, share your thoughts on stories and tag @veevincitherapist If you're interested in couples therapy? Check out my Creating Intimacy counselling program that has helped more than 100 couples regain connection, passion, respect, understanding and trust. If you aren’t following me on the socials, I invite you to join me on Instagram, Facebook and LinkedIn. And finally check out my counselling practice and services offered here.
Chore Wars: What's Behind the Drama of Dishes, Laundry, and Toilet Seats?
08-04-2024
Chore Wars: What's Behind the Drama of Dishes, Laundry, and Toilet Seats?
Ever walked into your bedroom after a long day, only to be greeted by your partner's stinky jocks lounging on the floor, just inches away from the laundry basket? Yep, been there, felt that frustration. In this episode, I’m diving into the messy world of household chores, where laundry, leaving the toilet seat up, and dirty dishes become the epicentre of relationship drama. As a therapist, I've had my fair share of ringside seats to the chore wars, and let me tell you, it's quite the spectacle. But here's the thing – it doesn’t have to be. That's why I'm shining a light on why these seemingly mundane tasks can explode into stress bombs and, most importantly, how to disarm them. So, if you're tired of the chore war drama, do yourself a favour and tune in for some practical tips to help you tackle chore conflicts effectively. Because let's face it, nobody wins in the chore war game – it's all about finding that sweet spot in the middle. Trust me, this listen is worth every minute. I hope you enjoy this episode! Let me know, share your thoughts on stories and tag @veevincitherapist If you're interested in couples therapy? Check out my Creating Intimacy counselling program that has helped more than 100 couples regain connection, passion, respect, understanding and trust. Also in this episode I mentioned the Structured App, an all-in-one day planner combining calendar, to-do list, and habit tracker into a single timeline find out more here. If you aren’t following me on the socials, I invite you to join me on Instagram, Facebook and LinkedIn. And finally check out my counselling practice and services offered here.
Change is Strange: Embracing Life's Plot Twists
11-03-2024
Change is Strange: Embracing Life's Plot Twists
When change comes knocking, do you find yourself hesitating to answer? Hey, you're not alone! That's why this episode is all about change – that inevitable part of life that has a knack for leaving us feeling stuck. Listen as I take a deep dive into the psychology of change, unravelling why it can feel like such a head-scratcher. I'll chat about why we resist change, even when it could lead to some serious personal growth and resilience. And let's not forget why we often hold onto the familiar for dear life when the unknown holds so much potential. So, tune in now for some strategies on kicking fear of change to the curb and practical tips for getting prepped, taking action, and sticking to it. But wait, there's more! I'll also share a story about an incredible couple I had the privilege of working with and how through embracing change they found their way back to each other. And speaking of unexpected blessings, I've got a personal story to share too. It's about a tough situation that shook up my family – one that demanded change, action, and acceptance. But you know what? That sh%t stick delivered an unexpected gift that keeps on giving to this day. I hope you enjoy this episode! Let me know, share your thoughts on stories and tag @veevincitherapist If you're interested in knowing more about #memyselfandi Mastery Program, hop on the waitlist to be the first access information on the program including an exclusive discount offer. If you aren’t following me on the socials, I invite you to join me on Instagram, Facebook and LinkedIn. Check out my counselling practice and services offered here.
Say Yes to Yourself: Jo's Path to Self-Advocacy
26-02-2024
Say Yes to Yourself: Jo's Path to Self-Advocacy
My latest episode features Jo, whose journey to self-advocacy is nothing short of inspiring. Despite being in her 60s and having limited experience with therapy, Jo discovered her voice and courage through participating in my ​#memyselfandi Mastery Program.​ In this episode, you'll hear Jo's personal story of growth and empowerment, where she: Proves that it's never too late to embark on a journey of self-discovery and transformation.Bravely shares her struggles with self-advocacy, people-pleasing tendencies, and the challenges of prioritising self-care.Learns invaluable strategies for saying no, prioritising what she needs, and re-evaluating her beliefs and values.Develops a newfound sense of responsibility for her own wellbeing.Discovers the resilience to navigate life's challenges with grace and confidence. Jo's story is not just about the power of personal development; it's a reminder that personal growth knows no age limit. Whether you're in your 20s or your 60s, Jo's journey serves as a reminder that it's never too late to prioritise your own growth and wellbeing. I have no doubt that you'll walk away feeling inspired and empowered to embark on your own journey of self-discovery. Speaking of… doors close for my ​#memyselfandi Mastery Program​ this Friday, find out more and secure your place ​here​ before 12pm, 1 March 2024 (AWST). If you aren’t following me on the socials, I invite you to join me on Instagram, Facebook and LinkedIn. Check out my counselling practice and services offered here.
Feeling Unappreciated: The Art of NOT Being the Unsung Hero
12-02-2024
Feeling Unappreciated: The Art of NOT Being the Unsung Hero
In this episode, we dive into something special: a conversation with one of my #memyselfandi Mastery Program participants as she shares her journey from feeling unsupported and unappreciated to becoming empowered and deeply connected with everything she needs. Theresa’s story is one many women can relate to… Juggling the demands of being a young Mum while trying to balance work, marriage and family life. And the uncomfortable feelings that come up when your priorities become out of sync. Tune in for honest conversation and a treasure trove of insights and lessons learned as we explore how through my #memyselfandi Mastery Program, Theresa gained clarity and support and finally learnt ways to prioritise her needs without guilt. Hear first-hand how some 18 months later Theresa’s transformation continues and how: her relationship with her husband has blossomed into a true partnership.she’s now a more present and patient mother.professionally, she exudes confidence and competence.now advocating for herself comes naturally, and she's adept at identifying and prioritising her needs. Don't miss out on this inspiring journey of personal growth and empowerment. I hope you enjoy this episode! Let me know, share your thoughts on stories and tag @veevincitherapist Doors open for my #memyselfandi Mastery Program NEXT WEEK! Hop on the waitlist to be the first access information on the program including an exclusive discount offer. If you aren’t following me on the socials, I invite you to join me on Instagram, Facebook and LinkedIn. Check out my counselling practice and services offered here.