You're always fine

Cabana

Welcome to "You're Always Fine," the mental health and wellness podcast for the chronically fine. Hosted by Kristine Hoestermann, LICSW, and Theresa Thomas, this show is like talking to your best friends but with the advice of seasoned professionals. Brought to you by Even Health, a tech company that's breaking down barriers in the world of mental health, this podcast is about keeping it real, even when you're not feeling your best. Join Kristine and Theresa weekly as they open up about their vulnerabilities and fearlessly discuss topics people often shy away from. From societal struggles to those within everyday life, they bring the power of authenticity to the forefront.

Do you tend to respond with "I'm fine" even when you're not feeling great? Or maybe you're dealing with relationship issues or feeling overwhelmed by world events. If you identify as a high-functioning individual with anxiety, depression, or OCD, then "You're Always Fine" is the perfect show for you because it's okay not to be fine.

Tune in as we explore unfiltered truths and provide insights into finding balance and peace in your everyday life. We know you're always fine, but grab your headphones and listen every week as we navigate life together; better than just "fine."

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Episodes

Building bridges in mental health
30-05-2024
Building bridges in mental health
Let's connect, click here to shoot us a text.What unique challenges do military veterans face when transitioning into civilian life, and how can mental health professionals better support them? This episode features Kenneth, the Assistant Dean of the Online MSW Program at Syracuse University, who brings his extensive experience from the military and mental health sectors to our discussion. Kenneth opens up about his journey, from earning his graduate degree at the University of Pennsylvania to his various impactful roles in the Air Force. We explore his commitment to bridging the gap in mental health care for veterans, particularly those facing homelessness, and the critical need for military cultural competency among providers.Our conversation takes a deeper look at the innovative partnership between Syracuse University and Cabana, which seeks to enhance mental health support for veterans through comprehensive services and internships. Kenneth and Kristine illuminate the importance of personalized care, meeting clients where they are, and utilizing technological advancements to break down barriers to mental health access. We also discuss the importance of community and support networks for individuals facing invisible struggles and the vital role of professional dedication in fostering a stigma-free environment.  Cabana Pods offers a therapeutic experience through immersive reality, focusing on emotional resilience. Research shows that immersive technologies tailored to one’s needs can immediately positively change well-being, mood, stress relief, and mindfulness.Learn more about Cabana pods at https://www.yourcabana.com/podFollow us on Facebook, Instagram, Tik Tok, or LinkedIn. Click here to check out Cabana.
Transforming the struggle
14-05-2024
Transforming the struggle
Let's connect, click here to shoot us a text.When Heather Townsend swapped the world of e-discovery for the frontlines of mental health advocacy, she didn't just change careers—she embarked on a mission. This episode features Heather, the co-founder of Cabana, as she unveils her compelling narrative, from grappling with depression in her youth to using her battles as a catalyst for change. Her academic journey through psychology and neuroscience wasn't just about self-discovery; it was a stepping stone towards making mental health support more approachable and available to all. As Heather reflects on the hurdles she faced in finding therapy and the role purpose played in her life, you'll be inspired by how she transformed her struggles into a beacon of hope for others.We then shift the lens to the broader picture, dissecting the nuances of mental health discussions in our professional and personal lives. Heather and I unpack the vital need for open conversations and the powerful impact leadership can have in fostering a culture where psychological safety is paramount. Through my own admission of past depressive episodes, we underscore the profound influence these experiences have on management styles and the critical importance of transparency. Concluding with a heartfelt message of encouragement, this episode is an affirmation for those who've felt the weight of mental health challenges, emphasizing that seeking help is not just brave, but necessary for healing and growth.Cabana Pods offers a therapeutic experience through immersive reality, focusing on emotional resilience. Research shows that immersive technologies tailored to one’s needs can immediately positively change well-being, mood, stress relief, and mindfulness.Learn more about Cabana pods at https://www.yourcabana.com/podFollow us on Facebook, Instagram, Tik Tok, or LinkedIn. Click here to check out Cabana.
Mapping the new terrain of mental health | Part 1
30-04-2024
Mapping the new terrain of mental health | Part 1
Let's connect, click here to shoot us a text.Sitting in the stillness of a plane, David Black's encounter with a stranger began a journey of healing that would eventually bring Cabana, his mental wellness initiative, to light. As he shares with us his raw and transformative experience of facing grief, it's impossible not to reflect on the silent battles we all carry. My own path was illuminated by the unexpected sanctuary of virtual communities, where bonds formed in the digital realm offered comfort that tangible relationships sometimes lacked. Together, David and I weave a narrative that underscores the necessity of confronting our inner turmoil and the profound impact shared experiences have on our quest for emotional health.Navigating the landscape of mental health care often feels like trekking through uncharted territory, and our discussion reveals just how much the terrain is changing. When the traditional compasses of the DSM and established therapy models fall short, innovation beckons. Through the lens of Cabana's pioneering efforts and my own clinical experiences, we traverse the delicate balance between tried-and-true practices and the pressing need for accessible, responsive support. The pandemic's harsh spotlight on mental health has only heightened the urgency for this exploration, making it clear that the path to well-being is as individual as the people seeking it.As our conversation culminates, we map out the expansion of mental health care's horizons, focusing on the vision of a future where diverse options coexist harmoniously. Cabana's mission to democratize access to mental health services resonates with the stories of hospital employees and foreshadows a broader reach. We consider the intimate settings that foster openness, like the sanctuary of a car during a therapy session, and the importance of molding clinical wisdom to suit the practicalities of everyday life. Tune in to witness a candid exploration of how breaking down barriers can pave the way to a healthier, more resilient society.Cabana Pods offers a therapeutic experience through immersive reality, focusing on emotional resilience. Research shows that immersive technologies tailored to one’s needs can immediately positively change well-being, mood, stress relief, and mindfulness.Learn more about Cabana pods at https://www.yourcabana.com/podFollow us on Facebook, Instagram, Tik Tok, or LinkedIn. Click here to check out Cabana.
[Bite of Balance] A million little pieces
21-03-2024
[Bite of Balance] A million little pieces
Let's connect, click here to shoot us a text.Ever feel like you're just one unread email away from a meltdown? I'm Kristine, and on the latest Bite of Balance episode, we uncover the hidden havoc that microstress wreaks on our daily lives. Step by step, I'll guide you through recognizing those small, daily irritants that stealthily accumulate until they weigh us down. We're talking about the clutter that's more than just an eyesore and the tiny interruptions that might just be conspiring to frazzle your calm. It's not just about identifying these pesky stress-droplets; I share strategies to protect your peace, one mindful moment at a time.Equipped with this week's balance tool, the Microstress Meter, you'll learn to measure and manage the buzz of background tension that threatens to tip your balance. No guests this time—just me, Kristine, and a community ready to transform those sneaky stressors into opportunities for serenity and equilibrium. So, if you're ready to reclaim your calm and sidestep the path to burnout, tune in and discover how to turn everyday annoyances into moments of mindfulness. Catch the wave of tranquility with us, and let's keep those microstressors in check, together.Cabana Pods offers a therapeutic experience through immersive reality, focusing on emotional resilience. Research shows that immersive technologies tailored to one’s needs can immediately positively change well-being, mood, stress relief, and mindfulness.Learn more about Cabana pods at https://www.yourcabana.com/podFollow us on Facebook, Instagram, Tik Tok, or LinkedIn. Click here to check out Cabana.
[Bite of Balance] Reflect, realign and rediscover
14-03-2024
[Bite of Balance] Reflect, realign and rediscover
Let's connect, click here to shoot us a text.Have you ever felt like the person in the mirror wasn't quite the one you remembered? On this week's Bite of Balance, we tackle the unsettling yet universal phenomenon of identity loss. I, Teresa, get intensely personal about my own encounter with this beast, sharing the journey from a career-altering injury to the all-encompassing role of motherhood. Life's unexpected twists can sometimes strip us of our familiar selves, but together, we navigate the murky waters of redefining who we are when the ground beneath us shifts.__________________________________________________________Live group recommendation based on this episode:30-day goals: make your dreams come trueDate: 3/21/24    Time: 10am ESTDescription: Learn how to set 30-day goals that are structured and realistic as well as how to create action steps that will make your goals attainable. Become inspired to set goals and create meaningful change.Register hereIf you just found our podcast and missed the connecting live group, explore this month's live group schedule*These live groups are exclusive to Cabana members. If you would like to learn how you can become a Cabana member, you can visit our websiteCabana content recommendations based on this episode:Conquering fear meditationUnlock your inner compassThis week’s source notes:Symptoms of loss of identityhttps://www.healthline.com/health/mental-health/identity-crisis#outlook When loss of identity becomes an identity crisis.https://www.betterup.com/blog/identity-crisisCabana Pods offers a therapeutic experience through immersive reality, focusing on emotional resilience. Research shows that immersive technologies tailored to one’s needs can immediately positively change well-being, mood, stress relief, and mindfulness.Learn more about Cabana pods at https://www.yourcabana.com/podFollow us on Facebook, Instagram, Tik Tok, or LinkedIn. Click here to check out Cabana.
Case of lost identity
12-03-2024
Case of lost identity
Let's connect, click here to shoot us a text.When the roles we've cherished fall away, who do we become? Our latest episode welcomes a conversation that sheds light on the struggles of redefining oneself amidst pivotal life shifts. We get intimate about the grief and the unexpected joy in rediscovering passions that were once overshadowed by our previous identities.This heartfelt discussion also uncovers the intricate ties between our sense of self and overall well-being. We all face those moments when simple questions like "What are your hobbies?" confront us with the voids left by our lost identities. But it's here, in the thick of these challenges, that we chart a course for mental health and personal value. Learn how to cultivate self-awareness and core values as anchors in this sea of change, and gain practical tools for crafting your life's visual compass. Join us and be part of a community on a quest to find peace and fulfillment beyond life's defining roles._______________________________________________Live group recommendation based on this episode:Self-love & self-care: it's not about egoDate: 3/21/24   Time: 2pm ESTDescription: As those that work in healthcare, we are great at caring for others but often do not prioritize ourselves. We will explore the importance of self-love and self-care for our mental, emotional, and physical health.Register hereIf you just found our podcast and missed the connecting live group, explore this month's live group schedule*These live groups are exclusive to Cabana members. If you would like to learn how you can become a Cabana member, you can visit our websiteCabana content recommendations based on this episode:Understanding your current narrativeWhat’s an inner voice?Embrace being enoughUnlock your inner compassThis week’s source notes:Symptoms of lose of identityhttps://www.healthline.com/health/mental-health/identity-crisis#outlook When lose of identity becomes an identity crisishttps://www.betterup.com/blog/identity-crisisCabana Pods offers a therapeutic experience through immersive reality, focusing on emotional resilience. Research shows that immersive technologies tailored to one’s needs can immediately positively change well-being, mood, stress relief, and mindfulness.Learn more about Cabana pods at https://www.yourcabana.com/podFollow us on Facebook, Instagram, Tik Tok, or LinkedIn. Click here to check out Cabana.
[Bite of balance] Life after happily ever after
07-03-2024
[Bite of balance] Life after happily ever after
Let's connect, click here to shoot us a text.Toss out the fairy tale guidebook to marriage—this isn't your grandmother's advice column. This week on Bite of Balance, we're serving up a no-holds-barred look at the real, unfiltered journey of marriage, warts and all. Prepare to get a heavy dose of reality as we confront the fact that those storybook endings are just the beginning, and what follows requires resilience, communication, and a willingness to grow—both individually and together. We'll challenge the dreamy couple goals flooding your feeds and swap them for the authentic grind of partnership where, yes, sometimes you might fantasize about lovingly throttling your other half.Grab your earbuds and let's get candid about the nitty-gritty of navigating love's labyrinth with your life partner. You're not alone if you find yourself interrupting before your partner finishes their sentence—that's me, all the way. We'll explore the crucial skills of really listening and speaking your truth to keep the flames of your relationship burning bright. So, if you're ready to roll up your sleeves and put in the work, this conversation is for you. Together, let's transform the daunting roller coaster of marriage into an exhilarating ride you're both pumped to be on.Cabana Pods offers a therapeutic experience through immersive reality, focusing on emotional resilience. Research shows that immersive technologies tailored to one’s needs can immediately positively change well-being, mood, stress relief, and mindfulness.Learn more about Cabana pods at https://www.yourcabana.com/podFollow us on Facebook, Instagram, Tik Tok, or LinkedIn. Click here to check out Cabana.
Marriage is work
05-03-2024
Marriage is work
Let's connect, click here to shoot us a text.Ever found yourself clinging to the notion of a fairytale ending in marriage, only to face the less-than-magical day-to-day realities? It's Kristine and Theresa here, holding nothing back as we dissect the challenges and complexities that come with saying "I do." From the evolution of core values to the trials of communication and compromise, we're peeling back the layers of marital myths and highlighting the resilient threads that can either bind or break a partnership.Waltzing into the arena of love languages, we critically examine their practicality and limitations. Love, as we see it, isn't a psychic ability; it's a two-way street paved with the bricks of clear articulation of needs and understanding. We share our personal tales of navigating household roles, preferences in affection, and social boundaries, driving home the point that a robust relationship is built on candid exchanges and an honest, open dialogue.Wrap up your headphones and get ready to listen in on our most intimate chapter yet—where we underscore the transformative power of communication in the ever-changing dance of marriage. Through personal revelations and the guidance of couples therapy, we touch on the importance of mutual growth and empathy. Join us as we affirm that the journey of marriage, with all its ups and downs, requires a symphony of patience, empathy, and commitment to personal development for a truly harmonious duet.Cabana Pods offers a therapeutic experience through immersive reality, focusing on emotional resilience. Research shows that immersive technologies tailored to one’s needs can immediately positively change well-being, mood, stress relief, and mindfulness.Learn more about Cabana pods at https://www.yourcabana.com/podFollow us on Facebook, Instagram, Tik Tok, or LinkedIn. Click here to check out Cabana.
[Bite of balance] Mom guilt
29-02-2024
[Bite of balance] Mom guilt
Let's connect, click here to shoot us a text.Ever felt that sinking sensation in the pit of your stomach when you realize, amidst a perfectly orchestrated day, you've forgotten your kid's baseball cap? That's mom guilt - and it's got a stranglehold on 94% of us, making us feel like we're forever falling short of some mythical maternal mark. In this episode, I, Teresa, go beyond just nodding in agreement about the struggles of motherhood. Instead, I'm dissecting the two sides of guilt and sharing why it's crucial to distinguish the growth-inspiring from the irrational.Strap in, fellow moms, as we confront the pressures and judgements that fuel the chaos of mom guilt. From the stay-at-home moms wrangling with the idea they should be working to the working moms drowning in the stigma of 'not enough time with the kids,' our battles are as unique as they are universal. But here's the kicker - I'll unveil a life-saving strategy that shifted the tide in my own life. It's about self-care without guilt because, let's face it, you can't pour from an empty cup. By the time we sign off, you'll be ready to extend yourself that much-needed grace and face parenting with a fresh dose of strength and resilience.Cabana Pods offers a therapeutic experience through immersive reality, focusing on emotional resilience. Research shows that immersive technologies tailored to one’s needs can immediately positively change well-being, mood, stress relief, and mindfulness.Learn more about Cabana pods at https://www.yourcabana.com/podFollow us on Facebook, Instagram, Tik Tok, or LinkedIn. Click here to check out Cabana.
The burden of guilt
27-02-2024
The burden of guilt
Let's connect, click here to shoot us a text.Have you ever felt guilt after realizing your actions didn't align with your values? You're far from alone in this emotional labyrinth. Today's heartfelt conversation takes a magnifying glass to guilt – that all-too-familiar self-conscious emotion that can drive us to amend our errors. We peel back layers of our personal stories, examining how guilt evolves through life's stages, and spotlight the poignant 'parent guilty' more commonly known as 'mom guilt' that seems an inescapable of the parenting experience.As we thread through the chapters, the conversation pivots to the implications of mom guilt on our little ones, revealing the sobering reality that our internal battles can inadvertently sculpt their developing self-identities and life expectations. We'll chat about Kristine's journey through therapy, her quest for self-compassion amidst the chaos, and Theresa's daily struggle with mom guilt – all of it is laid bare. This episode isn't just a narrative; it's a communal space for understanding and speaking about what we often leave unsaid.____________________________________Live group recommendation based on this episode:Failure: embracing mistakes and learning from themDate:  3/14/2024  Time: 10am est.Description: If you've ever experienced failure, you know that it can be a discouraging and frustrating experience. But what if failure was actually an opportunity for growth and learning?Register hereIf you just found our podcast and missed the connecting live group, explore this month's live group schedule*These live groups are exclusive to Cabana members. If you would like to learn how you can become a Cabana member, you can visit our websiteCabana content recommendations based on this episode:Learning from mistakesResponsibility pieShift your shameThis week’s source notes: Combatting the feeling of guilthttps://www.healthline.com/health/mental-health/how-to-stop-feeling-guilty Ending the toxic guilt cycles https://medium.com/mind-cafe/untwisting-your-thoughts-to-break-the-grip-of-toxic-guilt-a734ccb062e8 Symptoms of a guilt complexhttps://www.veryweCabana Pods offers a therapeutic experience through immersive reality, focusing on emotional resilience. Research shows that immersive technologies tailored to one’s needs can immediately positively change well-being, mood, stress relief, and mindfulness.Learn more about Cabana pods at https://www.yourcabana.com/podFollow us on Facebook, Instagram, Tik Tok, or LinkedIn. Click here to check out Cabana.
Resolution recharge
22-02-2024
Resolution recharge
Let's connect, click here to shoot us a text.Have you ever felt the burnout buzz just as you started chasing down those big, shiny resolutions? I've been there—declaring a diet revolution only to get buried under a pile of should-haves and could-haves by February. But what if I told you the secret sauce to resolutions isn't in the grand gestures but in the tiny triumphs? This week on Bite of Balance, we share the nitty-gritty on setting goals that stick like good ol' peanut butter to the roof of your mouth. Think less "overnight sensation" and more "veggie incorporation" to your daily meals. We're about turning those mountains back into molehills, one bite-sized step at a time. So, lace up those goal-kicking boots, and let’s march together toward our ultimate destinations with a healthy side of self-high-fives!______________________________________________________________________Live group recommendation based on this episode:Be kind to yourself: cultivating self-compassionDate: 2/29/24   Time: 10:30 EST.Description: Practicing self-compassion can help us accept our mistakes and flaws, leading us to treat ourselves as we would a loved one.Register hereIf you just found our podcast and missed the connecting live group, explore this month's live group schedule*These live groups are exclusive to Cabana members. If you would like to learn how you can become a Cabana member, you can visit our websiteCabana content recommendations based on this episode:Resolution bingo boardLong-term goal setting templateFocus on the end resultThis week’s source notes:Making a New Year resolutionhttps://www.psychiatry.org/news-room/news-releases/making-a-mental-health-new-year’s-resolution-one-iRealistic resolutionshttps://www.mentalhealthfirstaid.org/2020/01/realistic-new-years-resolutions-for-your-mental-health/Atomic Habits by James ClearCabana Pods offers a therapeutic experience through immersive reality, focusing on emotional resilience. Research shows that immersive technologies tailored to one’s needs can immediately positively change well-being, mood, stress relief, and mindfulness.Learn more about Cabana pods at https://www.yourcabana.com/podFollow us on Facebook, Instagram, Tik Tok, or LinkedIn. Click here to check out Cabana.
Navigating resolutions with grace
20-02-2024
Navigating resolutions with grace
Let's connect, click here to shoot us a text.Welcome to season two of "You're Always Fine". In this episode, Kristine introduces Theresa, who will be her co-host this season. This week we talk about the elephant in February, Resolutions. We discuss the excuses that we all make and the psychology behind why we often fail to keep our resolutions. We challenge the traditional narrative of resolutions, and share stories of progress that value growth over perfection. This episode is filled with laughter, understanding, and moments of insight. Remember, personal growth is a continuous journey, not a destination dictated by a calendar. Join us in our conversation that affirms balance, peace, and growth.______________________________________________________________________Live group recommendation based on this episode:Self-confidence: a group for growth and developmentDate: 2/27/24    Time: 2pm ESTDescription: We'll explore practical strategies for developing self-confidence, such as positive self-talk, setting achievable goals, and facing our fearsRegister hereIf you just found our podcast and missed the connecting live group, explore this month's live group schedule*These live groups are exclusive to Cabana members. If you would like to learn how you can become a Cabana member, you can visit our websiteCabana content recommendations based on this episode:Resolution bingo boardLong-term goal setting templateFocus on the end resultThis week’s source notes:Making a new year resolutionhttps://www.psychiatry.org/news-room/news-releases/making-a-mental-health-new-year’s-resolution-one-iRealistic resolutionshttps://www.mentalhealthfirstaid.org/2020/01/realistic-new-years-resolutions-for-your-mental-health/Atomic Habits by James Clear________________________________________________________Cabana Pods offers a therapeutic experience through immersive reality, focusing on emotional resilience. Research shows that immersive technologies tailored to one’s needs can immediately positively change well-being, mood, stress relief, and mindfulness.Learn more about Cabana pods at https://www.yourcabana.com/podFollow us on Facebook, Instagram, Tik Tok, or LinkedIn. Click here to check out Cabana.