No Deep Dives by FlexMami

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Logie-Nominee, best-selling author, and award-winning podcaster FlexMami decodes the riddle of life. Each episode is earnest, optimistic, opinionated, sometimes superficial and never unnecessarily judgmental. Perfect for ruminators, over-thinkers and serial generalists searching for meaning (never resolution!). read less
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026: How do you outsmart passive aggression?
20-09-2024
026: How do you outsmart passive aggression?
WHAT THE HECK IS GOING ON!!! I'm tempted to say it's because Mars moved out of witty and superficial Gemini, into sensitive and self protective Cancer. This episode brings me to the eternal question: does passive aggression ever get the job done? From a surreal confrontation with strangers demanding silence by the river to deep dives into emotional intelligence, we’re exploring how our demons often sneak up on us sideways. Is passive aggression a form of self-protection, or just emotional avoidance? And how does the astrological vibe of Mars in Cancer intensify this sneaky behavior? Along the way, I reflect on lessons from yoga, breathwork, and astrology, as we unpack how to turn our emotional triggers into conscious action instead of passive stand-offs. Plus, we explore philosophical insights from the Bhagavad Gita and how it challenges us to reflect on the deeper distinction between self-awareness and self-knowledge. We also break down how over-intellectualizing our emotions can lead to dissociation, particularly during yoga and other mindfulness practices. We’re drawing from ancient philosophy, yoga insights, and that cosmic question, “Is it better to speak or to die?” Tune in for a mix of wit, wisdom, and just the right amount of chaos. Rate five stars—don’t make me ask twice! ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ Miss you! Flex's Instagram   TIMESTAMPS 00:00 hi am i better now? 00:24 pass-agg river confrontation 08:51 mars is in cancer!!! 15:35 emotional processing update 27:42 self awareness vs. self knowledge 30:49 i fear discipline works
025: What if you're wrong about you? feat. Jordan Stacey
12-09-2024
025: What if you're wrong about you? feat. Jordan Stacey
AHHH! WE HAVE DONE IT AGAIN. Genius insights, but this time with philosopher and TikTok creator Jordan Stacey (@jordstac). Despite battling a scratchy throat, we explore Jordan's fascinating journey from science enthusiast to spiritual seeker and unpack how those two worlds collide in unexpected ways. We discuss the dichotomy between nakedness and mess when revealing our vulnerabilities and reflect on how dreams can be a tool for subconscious processing. Together, we critique the limitations of short-form content in building genuine empathy, diving into how the internet's binary narratives fall short of replicating the depth of real-life interactions. 🪐 How studying science ironically led to a spiritual awakening 🪐 The tug-of-war between creativity and aesthetics 🪐 Why dreams might hold the key to subconscious processing 🪐 The anxiety trap of constantly evolving your self-concept 🪐 The struggle between leading with your nakedness vs. your mess 🪐 How short-form content might be killing real empathy 🪐 Why real-world chaos beats curated online peace We emphasize the importance of embracing chaos and unpredictability in a world obsessed with curated peace. Tap in for a conversation that’s full of sharp insights, deep laughs, and more questions than answers. Rate five stars—don’t make me ask twice! ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ Miss you! Jordan's TikTok Jordan's Podcast   TIMESTAMPS 00:00 hi, missed you 01:33 science to spirituality pipeline 07:06 creativity is spirituality 13:14 challenging self concept 18:23 dreams for subconscious processing 34:04 masking & personal intimacy 34:47 high school social experiments 35:13 racism 36:11 the layers of friendship 38:16 pursuing knowledge is a xxxx 54:11 empathy, sympathy, and pity 01:03:05 online vs irl  01:06:39 bye!!
020: I know who k*lled chivalry ☝️
10-07-2024
020: I know who k*lled chivalry ☝️
Is it possible for our brainwaves to sync up with people we like? 🧠 Or how many virtual hangouts it takes to match a real-life four-hour dinner? 🍽️ We'll get into the nitty-gritty of why technology can't quite replace face-to-face interactions (I discovered this during my VOGUE CODES panel: Technocopia). Plus, let’s clear the air on my Instagram sermon about the supposed death of chivalry – hint: it might not be feminism’s fault. 💡 I also take you through some historical detours, like the concept of courtly love. Expect some enlightening exchanges about the ever-evolving social norms and how patriarchy is like a house with serious structural issues – yep, it’s leaking!  ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ Miss you dearly!! Bye for now! 💖   IMPORTANT LINKS https://www.vogue.com.au/vogue-codes/news/lessons-from-the-vogue-codes-2024-summit/image-gallery/1486dcbfe6b33350025d6f011a8001ac https://www.instagram.com/p/C720M1ihtzj/?img_index=1 https://www.scientificamerican.com/article/brain-waves-synchronize-when-people-interact/   DIVE DEEPER No Deep Dives TikTok No Deep Dives Instagram No Deep Dives Substack No Deep Dives Slack FlexMami Instagram   TIMESTAMPS 00:11 Natural High? 01:08 Synchrony Is Sexy (and REAL!) 03:02 VOGUE Codes Panel Gossip 03:59 Virtual vs. Physical Connections 15:09 The PR Problem of Modern Relationships 21:31 Patriarchy, Feminism, and the Struggle for Power 26:52 Closing Thoughts: Patriarchy's Cracks and Future 30:08 The Evolution of Chivalry and Romance
017: Social Portion Control + Friendship Sustainability
02-05-2024
017: Social Portion Control + Friendship Sustainability
The wordsmith yapper jumped out. In this episode we're talking about friendship sustainability and social portion control. I would elaborate but that's what the podcast is for.   DIVE DEEPER No Deep Dives TikTok No Deep Dives Instagram No Deep Dives Substack No Deep Dives Slack   IMPORTANT LINKS ReFlex Conversation Cards https://shopflexmami.com/ Friendship Expert https://www.tiktok.com/@thefriendshipexpert?lang=en   TIMESTAMPS 00:00 Welcome to No Deep Dives 00:51 Moral Dilemma 03:31 Social Portion Control 05:36 Friendship Formula 13:02 Sustaining Friendships 17:41 In Conclusion   In this episode of 'No Deep Dives',  Flex dives into friendship sustainability (reduce, reuse, recycle,) and concept she termed 'social portion control'. Flex explores the nuances of enjoyment in eating, posing thought-provoking questions about preferences in the act of chewing vs. swallowing food, and relating these to broader themes of pleasure and consumption in life. The concept of 'social portion control' is elaborated as an indicator of healthy relationships, where mutual understanding and reciprocity are key. The podcast also touches on the complexities of sustaining friendships, the role of expectations in relationship dynamics, and the challenges of friendship breakdowns. Flex concludes with an innovative approach to friendship, suggesting a 'reduce, reuse, recycle' strategy for building and maintaining relationships, emphasizing a sustainable approach to social connections.
016: Symptoms of Being A Person
18-04-2024
016: Symptoms of Being A Person
Sorry to stress you out!!!! I've had an epiphany spurred by flashbacks of Year 10 Religion classes. Didn't we learn in Buddhism that desire is suffering? So, the pursuit of joy is riddled with pain? Maybe the "bad" stuff we experience doesn't exactly mean that our lives are deficient – perhaps they're just symptoms of being a person.   DIVE DEEPER No Deep Dives TikTok No Deep Dives Instagram No Deep Dives Substack No Deep Dives Slack   TIMESTAMPS In this episode of No Deep Dives, Flex starts with a brief mention of her newfound love for the movie Dune 2, highlighting its depiction of real-life issues such as colonialism and religious engineering, before diving into the main topic: suffering, stress, and Buddhism. She discusses the nature of suffering and how it's intertwined with human existence, referencing Buddhism's Four Noble Truths and the Eightfold Path as a framework for understanding and potentially overcoming suffering. Flex also explores the concept of karma, the impact of actions and intentions on one's future, and how modern society's perception and management of stress don't align with our evolutionary development. Throughout the episode, she shares personal anecdotes and reflections on learning, the challenges of ethical living in a capitalist society, and the pursuit of enlightenment. The discussion extends into the societal and personal factors contributing to stress and the perpetual quest for joy and comfort amidst life's inevitable hardships.   00:00 Welcome to No Deep Dives 00:10 Dune 2 01:08 Episode Breakdown 01:34 Thoughts Are Puzzles 02:13 The Curious Case of Whale Lungs 03:19 Rethinking Suffering 05:10 Buddhism and the Nature of Suffering 09:04 Understanding Karma in Buddhism 10:40 Navigating the Eightfold Path to Enlightenment 13:58 Reflecting on Life, Stress, and Expectations 17:32 Modern Society and the Chronic Stress Dilemma 19:43 Closing Thoughts and Farewell
015: Curse of Friends to Lovers
18-04-2024
015: Curse of Friends to Lovers
Is your key to freedom on the other side of the diabolically embarrassing scenario you've been avoiding? Should the 'friends to lovers' trope be saved for romance novels? Is closure real? Did your heart break when you saw Jerrod Carmichael confess his love for Tyler the Creator?   DIVE DEEPER No Deep Dives TikTok No Deep Dives Instagram No Deep Dives Substack No Deep Dives Slack   IMPORTANT LINKS https://www.tiktok.com/search?q=jerrod%20tyler&t=1712809364136   TIMESTAMPS Welcome back to No Deep Dives, where Flex takes us on a journey through the intricacies of human connections. In this episode, we're diving into the delicate dance of transitioning friendships into romantic entanglements, the rising tide of extreme self-awareness in society, and the profound impacts our actions have on our mental well-being. We'll navigate the complexities of secondhand embarrassment and the ever-present fear of being labelled as 'cringe'. But fear not because we're also spotlighting the myth of meritocracy in relationships and questioning whether closure is genuinely attainable. A highlight of this episode is a deep dive into Jerrod Carmichael's revelation about his feelings for Tyler the Creator—an exploration of the intricate tapestry of human emotions and the elusive quest for closure. So, join us as Flex challenges us to confront the romantic tropes we've internalized and embrace the unpredictable nature of real-life relationships. 00:00 Setting the Stage for Deep Exploration 00:10 From Friends to Lovers, Fantasy v Reality 00:35 Plot Awareness to Consequence Awareness 02:16 Unpacking the Jerrod Carmichael and Tyler the Creator Incident 08:02 Debunking the Myth of Meritocracy and the Elusive Quest for Closure 11:42 Reality TV, Situationships, and the Age-Old Friends-to-Lovers Trope 17:02 Final Reflections and Farewell
014: Softboys! Are! Beefing!!!
08-04-2024
014: Softboys! Are! Beefing!!!
The softboys are fighting! The Pick Me(n) are turning on each other! The timeline wants to know, is the man content creating painting his nails, talking about the glass ceiling and lipsynching to Hozier a feminist or misogynist in sheeps clothing???   DIVE DEEPER No Deep Dives TikTok No Deep Dives Instagram No Deep Dives Substack No Deep Dives Slack https://www.tiktok.com/@quinnickleshow/video/7346640693902937390 https://www.tiktok.com/@quinickle/video/7232337055605378346?q=quinnickle&t=1712558892570 https://www.tiktok.com/@quinickle/video/7298752921800363306?q=quinnickle&t=1712558892570 https://www.tiktok.com/@angieemann/video/7182369370180422955?q=strange%20kevin&t=1712558799606 https://www.tiktok.com/@misterstrang4/video/7301150160363556139?q=strange%20kevin%20female%20gaze&t=1712558857512 https://www.tiktok.com/@tellthebeees/video/7349382297138892062?_r=1&%3B_t=8l0sr2k8DPm TIMESTAMPS Welcome to the latest episode of No Deep Dives, hosted by Flex. Today, we're diving into the intricate world of TikTok's social dynamics. Our focus? The emergence of 'pick me men' and the intriguing concept of the female gaze. Flex delves into the trend of men strategically distancing themselves from 'pick me' behaviours to position themselves as more self-aware than their fellow counterparts. Then dissects the evolution and occasional misinterpretations of the male gaze, ultimately leading to the emergence of the female gaze phenomenon. Through the lens of notable TikTok creators like Strange Kevin and Quinn, we'll analyze how these trends mirror deeper societal shifts in gender dynamics, self-presentation, and the pursuit of authenticity in digital spaces. Join Flex to challenge preconceptions and unravel the layers of these trends. Who truly benefits, and are we witnessing genuine progress or just a fresh coat of paint on age-old patriarchal norms? Let's dive in and find out. 00:33 The Rise of 'Pick Me' Men 02:13 Decoding the Male Gaze 05:38 The Female Gaze: A Counter-Narrative or a New Form of Objectification? 11:46 TikTok's Influence: From Strange Kevin to Quinnical 22:44 The Complexity of the Female Gaze: Perception vs. Reality
012: NYC Serial Punch Trend
03-04-2024
012: NYC Serial Punch Trend
What happens when violence BY MEN against women is documented in real-time by said women on TikTok? What if this caused such severe outrage that the perpetrator was found and apprehended in days? Have you heard about the femicide in South Korea and the 4B Movement created in response? DIVE DEEPER No Deep Dives TikTok No Deep Dives Instagram No Deep Dives Substack No Deep Dives Slack OTHER LINKS https://www.tiktok.com/@halleykate/video/7350308300317314350?lang=en https://www.tiktok.com/@corabrei/video/7350874328407231786 https://www.tiktok.com/@dylan.page/video/7351882826792308001?_r=1&_t=8l9OKpxQ5A7 TIMESTAMPS In this episode of No Deep Dives, hosted by FlexMami a pressing issue is discussed regarding a series of unprovoked and violent attacks on women in New York City. These assaults were initially considered isolated incidents until victims started sharing their experiences on TikTok, revealing a shocking pattern of similar attacks. The podcast explores various aspects of these incidents, including the public's reaction, the potential reasons behind the attacks, and the broader societal implications. It highlights the lack of empathy and understanding towards the victims and delves into themes of misinformation, patriarchal violence, and the impact of social media. The episode concludes with a commentary on how these events are reflective of deeper issues within society, urging listeners to remain vigilant and engage in discussions about violence against women. Flex also touches upon an alarming trend from the past, likened to the 'knockout game', and the disturbing normalization of such acts of violence. Furthermore, the arrest of a suspect, Skiboki Stora, is mentioned, which raises more questions about the systemic issues allowing such individuals to repeatedly commit these crimes. 00:10 Unprovoked Attacks in NYC 03:59 Victim Blaming and Misinformation 07:16 Commercialising Safety 10:45 Broken Social Contract Broken 13:58 Patriarchy's Role 18:13 The Arrest 22:13 Global Perspective 26:20 Closing Thoughts: The World is a Scary Place
010: Smut, Nepotism and Banned Books!
24-03-2024
010: Smut, Nepotism and Banned Books!
I'm microdosing an official book club by keeping you in the loop of what I'm reading. It spans from spicy to existential, but surely that doesn't surprise you. DIVE DEEPER No Deep Dives TikTok No Deep Dives Instagram No Deep Dives Substack No Deep Dives Slack TIMESTAMPS 00:00 Welcome to No Deep Dives: A FlexMami Podcast 00:10 Rediscovering the Joy of Reading: From Fiction to Nonfiction 01:01 Diving into 'Fall of Wrath and Ruin': A Spicy Book Review 05:16 Exploring 'Pedagogy of the Oppressed': A Deep Dive into Education 09:25 The Nepo Baby Debate and Pursuing Dreams 11:00 Navigating the World of Sarah J Maas and Book Controversies 12:22 The Idea of a Banned Book Club 12:39 Closing Thoughts and Community Engagement In this episode of 'No Deep Dives,' Flex discusses her return to giving book recommendations despite previous reservations, sparked by a desire to encourage reading both fiction and non-fiction. She reviews 'Fall of Wrath and Ruin' by Jennifer Armentrout, sharing her mixed feelings about the book's pacing and character dynamics while recommending Kindle Unlimited for book lovers. Flex then discusses 'Pedagogy of the Oppressed' by Paolo Freire, reflecting on traditional education's limitations and the potential for oppressed groups to envision change. The podcast also touches on the concept of nepotism and privilege, using musician Fred again as a case study to explore how privilege can impact one's ability to pursue dreams. Flex hints at starting a book club focusing on banned books and invites listeners to join their community for further discussions.
009: Gen Z! Misunderstood! Over-Labelled!
21-03-2024
009: Gen Z! Misunderstood! Over-Labelled!
The implication of being the generation set to shake things up, is that you stay shook up. When (as of 2024) Gen Z spans from 12-27, what is there to learn about them that doesn't feel like wild assumptions? Also who is going to keep us in the loop of the Chronically Offline Zoomers? Read the report here. DIVE DEEPER No Deep Dives TikTok No Deep Dives Instagram No Deep Dives Substack No Deep Dives Slack TIMESTAMPS 00:00 Welcome to No Deep Dives: Acknowledging the Land  00:10 The Fascination with Online Surveys and Gen Z Trends 00:26 Diving Deep into the Live Nation Report on Gen Z 01:56 What's In and What's Out According to Gen Z 02:27 The Skepticism Around Data Collection and Its Implications 03:51 Exploring the Complexities of Gen Z's Identity and Consumption 11:01 The Influence of Millennials on Gen Z and the Future of Cool 16:35 Concluding Thoughts and How to Connect with the Podcast Community   In this episode of No Deep Dives, FlexMami discusses the results of a recent report released by Live Nation exploring Gen Z trends and culture in 2024. The episode critiques the methodology of such reports, questioning their accuracy and the potential biases in their data collection processes. Flex raises concerns about oversimplification and generalising Gen Z's characteristics and highlights how advertisers and brands may miss the mark in understanding this demographic through superficial surveys. The discussion also touches on Gen Z's diverse interests, from dopamine dressing to antinatalism, and critiques the notion of generational identity being largely shaped by online consumption patterns. Furthermore, Flex reflects on the role of older generations in shaping Gen Z's culture and the importance of authentic representation in media. The podcast concludes with a call for more nuanced and responsible approaches to understanding and engaging with Gen Z.