Life Uncut

Hey lifers!Did you ever compete in the school talent competition? Britt and Laura share the talents that they were proud enough to share with their friends and family. They were subsequently mocked for them! Have you ever accidentally posted something to social media that was meant for close friends or a group chat?British actress Betsy Blue English 'called out' Tammy Hembrow for copying her wedding cake; except she didn't mean to call her out, she meant to share it on her close friends story! We read out some of the funniest accidents that you have caused yourself. A few days ago, Tones and I shared a heartbreaking post with a caption explaining that she had suffered a miscarriage during the rehearsal of her recent Melbourne show.Tones went on to perform the following night, with very few people knowing the pain and the loss that she was experiencing.Today we have a chat about miscarriage and discuss: The pressure women may feel to 'get back to it' and act as though nothing has happened.Laura's experiences of having multiple miscarriages.The feelings of loneliness that miscarriage can force you into feeling.Tones bravely sharing this to reduce the shame, guilt and stigma women feel around pregnancy loss.Whether we should re think 'not telling anyone' until 12 weeks of pregnancy. You can watch our whole chat with Tones and I on Youtube You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! xx  See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

It's our weekly round up! The best of the week from our National radio show THE PICKUP. Today's ep is unlike anything we have had to record before and are heartbroken by the decision that has been made for the show.  Every week we are joined by our radio co-host Mitch Churi at 3pm on the KIIS Network. You can listen live on iHeart radio, or catch up here each week!For more follow @THEPICKUP on socials. You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktokSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Hey Lifers!Welcome back to ask uncut where we answer your deep, dark and burning questions. There's a woman who found out her partner was cheating on her, so she took the urn that had his grandmother's ashes in it! Is this the ultimate bargaining tool or kind of cruel?We then asked you for some of the funny things you've taken during a break up. Vibes for the week:Keeshia Simple Interval Training app Laura Mco Beauty Instant Contour Cream BronzerBritt Buy Now! The Shopping Conspiracy on Netflix Then we jump into your questions!   PARENTS GAVE MORE MONEY TO MY SIBLINGA couple of years ago, my sibling got married and my parents gave them a substantial monetary gift for their wedding (I got a 1/3 of the amount for my wedding the year before, but was still so grateful for anything). A few months after their wedding, they wanted to buy a house and were loaned the entire deposit from my parents to pay back. A couple of years on, they have not paid a cent back and my parents haven’t asked for it either. I have received approximately 50k less than them over the past 3 years and now that there’s been no repayments or discussions about this, I’m starting to become bitter. They seem to be living a comfortable life and can certainly afford to do more than my parents can. I’m frustrated at both my sibling and parents but don’t want this to seem like I am only chasing money- I want there to be accountability. How would you handle this with your family members? GETTING FEELINGS FOR SOMEONE ELSE WHILST ENGAGEDI am in a relationship of almost 9 years and we are engaged. He is the most amazing person ever and ticks all the boxes but the sexual attraction and lust has left for me. I’m starting to have feelings for someone else which is controlling a lot of my emotions at the moment and it’s clouding my judgement!! My fiance and I have just bought a house and have a 11 month old puppy. His parents have gone guarantors for our place too. I feel like I’m stuck in a rock and a hard place with which way to go about it. Do I stay with my current fiance because he is the sweetest guy who would do anything for me or follow my head and heart and take a chance on this other person or even just try it out being single for a while? I’m in my late 20s and just scared I might be stuck in the mentality that I have a lot to lose but also might not be in love anymore. HOW TO RECONNECT AFTER HAVING A BABYI am a first time mum, our baby is now 10 months old. I have been really struggling with connecting to my partner in the last 6 months or so. He's a great dad and I love seeing him with our son but it feels like we've just lost the spark. I don't feel special or 'wanted' anymore. It doesn't help that he injured himself pretty badly in July and hasn't been able to carry his weight around the house - this has left me doing all the cooking, cleaning, bath and bed with the baby, etc. We live in a small rural town away from family so I don't have any help around the house as well, which adds another layer of stress. Months ago Laura mentioned something about just 'getting through those early years' when you have a baby in terms of staying with your partner. She said it gets a lot better once babies grow up a bit. I would love to hear more about this and I suppose my question is, how can I try to reconnect with my partner You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! xx    See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

We initially got to know Kate DeAraugo in 2005 when she won the crown of Australian Idol! She was just 18 years old. But her post Idol journey was anything but a fairytale; it spiralled into addiction and legal troubles. In 2017, Kate was convicted of drug possession, drug driving and weapons possession.  This conversation with Kate is a deeply honest recount of what it can be like when you live with addiction. Kate has what a lot of us would describe as an addictive personality, someone who took everything to the extreme. She says that when she drank, she drank too much. When she ate, she ate too much. When she loved, she loved too much. These behaviours took Kate to some fairly dark places.  Kate shares: After winning Idol, the only thing anyone spoke about was her body Record labels saying she needed to lose weight and having full body liposuction at age 19 The narrative of addicts being from ‘broken homes’ isn’t realistic What led her to seeking out drugs in the first place and how that spiralled into more heavy substance abuse The toll it took on her family How families can help support an addict & what her family learnt that ‘worked’ How addicts think and what happens inside their minds Addiction is a lifelong condition, but sobriety is a responsibility You can find more from Kate at her website  You can listen to Kate’s podcast Why Do I Feel This Way  Laura mentioned a famous study about addiction that you can watch in Johann Hari’s Ted talk here You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! xx  See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Hey Lifers! We had the Australian podcast awards but the real take away in the media is how unhinged Laura is and that she (and I quote) "leaves fans questioning her lifestyle habits". Britt is having a bit of a mid wedding planning crisis. Actually a big mid wedding crisis.If you've planned a wedding, did you chop and change your mind on things like your dress in the lead up to your wedding? We discuss the paradox of choice and decision fatigue. It's sledging season! A new term for how people are strung along over the Christmas/New Years period, delaying a break-up or continuing dating someone they know they're not interested in. We chat about when "is" the right time to end a relationship around this time and the reasons why so many couples break up around this time of the year.New Year, New Relationship!   You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! XxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

It's our weekly round up! The best of the week from our National radio show THE PICKUP. Today's ep is unlike anything we have had to record before and are heartbroken by the decision that has been made for the show.  Every week we are joined by our radio co-host Mitch Churi at 3pm on the KIIS Network. You can listen live on iHeart radio, or catch up here each week!For more follow @THEPICKUP on socials. You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktokSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Hey Lifers!Laura has had to go on a 'fishing' expedition in the grossest of places all thanks to Lola! Has your kid ever 'dropped' something valuable in a place that they shouldn't have?Britt tried to replace the shrine but failed epically and has had to employ a man who woke up in our friend's bed to fix the problem!  Vibes for the week:Britt - Picking up a new hobby. BasketballLaura - India Oxenberg's book 'Still Learning'Keeshia - By Maay Brooklyn work bag Then we get into your questions! DO I START SLEEPING WITH STRANGERS OR JUST HAVE NO SEX LIFE THANKS TO MY PARTNER?My partner and I have been together for 15 years. We have a 7 year old child who we love. But our sex life is 0. We talked a few months ago about opening our relationship. We both agreed and didn't have many rules. A few weeks later, I slept with an old friend. My partner was unhappy to say the least. Since then he convinced me to let him keep sleeping around but I can only see people I don't know. Now my question is... I'm not comfortable with people I don't know. Sex to me is intimate and needs friendship. Do I start sleeping with strangers or just have no sex for the rest of my life? MY HUSBAND GAVE ME MONEY AS A BDAY PRESENT My husband recently gave me $400 in cash for my birthday present.  For context, we have a joint account and each has a personal account and we get paid equal amounts in our personal accounts every week. We keep a money tin at home where we keep a bit of cash to the side to spend on joint expenses. The $400 birthday money came from our shared tin. At the time I was super grateful and thankful for the cash gift. He also took me out to dinner and paid for that with his personal money which was part of the gift. He said the money is to go towards getting a necklace made that I’ve been wanting for a long time. We aren’t huge on gift giving but I can’t help but feel a little disappointed that he didn’t put any time into thinking about a nice present for me that wasn’t just grabbing money out of the tin and putting it in a card. He did cook me breakfast and show me love in other ways on my birthday but I wish he put some thought into a gift for me. We do live very busy lives and are both self employed and work together so I don’t want to be too hard on him as life has been pretty hectic for both of us lately. How would you bring this up, if even at all? Or do I just move on and stop even thinking about it? Maybe I’m just being completely unreasonable. DO I GIVE HIM ANOTHER GO AFTER HE DUMPED ME FOR ANOTHER GIRL?My partner & I were together for 2 years, lived together, were speaking of marriage & kids within the coming year. 8 months ago, something happened randomly and my partner started pulling away. He was so checked out. He said he wanted to go to Bali with a mate and when he returned home he dumped me 2 days later. Little did I know he found a new girlfriend over in Bali, made it official & hard launched their relationship on Instagram 2 weeks later. I was beyond heart broken. I moved back in with my parents & it was the worst time of my life. Fast forward 8 months, he’s called things off with the new girl & has said he can’t move on from me. He said that he’s realised what he’s lost, he has massive issues & is willing to do anything to fix things including couples counselling and deleting his social media in order to gain my trust back… My whole family & friends hate him & I don’t know what to do. Is it worth giving him another go & trust he won’t break my heart again? Or am I risking ending up back at square one and too much damage has been done? You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! XxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Ever feel as though you’re not quite able to ‘do it all?’ During the past 2 decades, there has been a huge push into the world of ‘hustle culture.’ So many of us feel like we are constant hot messes, rushing around to try and get a million things in our day done.  Joining the podcast today is Israa Nasir, New York based psychotherapist and author of the new book “Toxic Productivity.”  Israa is here today to help us let go of the belief that our value is defined by how busy and successful we feel. Israa speaks about this as someone who currently has skin in the game, not from a place of hindsight. We are all having to manage this idea of toxic productivity now! We chat: Productivity no longer just applies to work. It’s infiltrated our romantic relationships, friendships, parenting and personal healthProductivity guilt; the guilty feeling when we ‘relax’The need for external validation can look like people pleasing or a workaholicChaotic state of a dysregulated nervous system becoming familiar e.g. ”I do my best work under pressure.” “I thrive in chaos.”Dynamics that keep us constantly busy, but never satisfied such as; self-worth, shame, social comparison, burnout, and perfectionismCultivating a healthier perspective on achievement to understand, manage, and shift our intense emotions  You can find more from Israa, including her new book at her website  You can follow Israa on Instagram    You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! Xx  See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Hey Lifers, It's officially Britt's bangiversary! She's tried to dupe Ben into a fancy gift but Ben's aware of her antics.We speak about the advice we got from our grandmothers. Some of it hasn't aged particularly well.  We might have found the world's most conflict avoidant man; the man who *likely has faked his own death to ditch his family and go to a woman in Europe. There was a video filmed back in June (two months before Ryan Borgwardt's disappearance). It shows a man on a bike asking if he should go to Uzbekistan to meet a woman, despite being married. After the video went viral, authorities say that the video isn't Ryan.  Also, how do you like your labia? We've spoken about symmetry, length and comfort when it comes to labia but labia puffing seems new.We ask: Is our generation more obsessed than ever with labia? Do you think this trend highlights empowerment or unnecessary pressure for perfection? You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! xxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

It's our weekly round up! The best of the week from our National radio show THE PICKUP. Every week we are joined by our radio co-host Mitch Churi at 3pm on the KIIS Network. You can listen live on iHeart radio, or catch up here each week!For more follow @THEPICKUP on socials. On the show:  A good deed backfiresDo you acknowledge the flatulanceCallumn HoleMitch's pitches You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktokSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Hey Lifers!Britt has had an extremely embarrassing moment at the hairdresser. We would want the ground to swallow us whole.Has your dog ever caused you to be in the most embarrassing moment of your life? Laura is having a bit of trouble getting Lola to give up something that she loves. Lola is in negotiations and Laura is struggling to reach a mutually agreed upon solution!Vibes for the week: Britt: Martha on NetflixLaura: Marigold’s Magic Stars book by Samantha WillsKeeshia: RecipeTin Eats Tonight Cookbook Then we get into your questions! I CAN'T SLEEP WHEN WE ARE IN THE SAME BEDI’ve been with my partner for about four years, he’s 33 and I’m 27. Everything’s great BUT the one thing that I cannot do with him, is sleep in the same bed. This is largely due to his snoring and sleep noises combined with my light sleeping. He would love to share a bed but I seriously just don’t sleep when I’m in the same bed. We always have great sex, have a cuddle at night, but then I’ll go to my room to sleep and then will wake each other up in the morning with a cuddle. It’s been a great arrangement but I get so worked up and worried about ever going away together. I feel like when we do share a room I’m sleep deprived, miserable and resentful. We want to go overseas together soon but again I get worried about future endeavours together because I’m scared I’ll never be able to sleep in the same bed and have a good sleep. Is this a sign that it’s not going to work? Or do we just have to keep making arrangements for separate beds where we can, and I get used to no sleep when the occasions arise that we do need to share a bed? Also just for context, he has undergone nasal surgery to straighten his septum in order to try fix the snoring and I’ve invested in so many different types of ear plugs but nothing has worked. Help please  BOYFRIEND SUPPORTS TRUMPI love my boyfriend but I think he supports Trump. After Trump just got elected, he said “well what did he do that was actually so bad the first time?” He thinks the hate against him is a media conspiracy. Can I be in a relationship with someone who feels this way about misogynistic people? HOLDING IN MY GAS AROUND HIMI’ve been seeing this guy for about 3 months now, we’re exclusive and it’s going well. It’s the first time I’m getting serious with someone so the first time I’ve been hanging out with a guy quite a lot over night/all weekend. The issue is I am quite a gassy person… I don’t have any stomach issues. I just tend to need to do a few pop offs after big meals or in the morning, and I also poop quite often too. I have been WAY too nervous to poop around him as I get scared he’s going to go in after me and smell it. I also am holding in ALL my farts. This is causing me serious stomach aches and pain. I’m often recovering from holding them in for 1-2 days after seeing him. Side note- he farts in front of me but I’m way too embarrassed to do it back… You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! xxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Do you have a ‘type’? No, not a physical type. What do the people you’ve been in relationships all have in common? It’s time for us to fully unpack why we tend to go for the same types of people over and over again, and how to break the cycle.  Sabrina Zohar is a relationship expert, entrepreneur and podcast host. Sabrina breaks down a lot of the ‘therapy terms’ and neuroscience to focus on doing the internal work and recognising patterns to chase the right kinds of connections and build healthy relationships. She’s known for her no bullshit relationship advice and telling you what you need to hear, rather than what you want to hear!   We chat: Identifying the patterns and taking accountability for what we are doing to contribute to them Bullshit blueprint - the core beliefs and things that were ingrained as you as a kid Becoming better ‘buyers’ in the dating world Can you trust ‘the spark?’ Looking at ‘what is’ rather than ‘what if’ You can find more from Sabrina’s website  And Sabrina’s instagram  You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! xx  See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Hey lifers!Laura and Matt both forgot their 2nd wedding anniversary. Do you celebrate each year?Are you the person who remembers 'dates'? We're talking anniversaries, birthdays, 'firsts' etc. How about your partner? What happens if one of you is a date celebrator and the other isn't?Britt has picked her wedding dress and Laura wants to see it! Did you share your wedding dress with your friends before your actual wedding day? The government has announced proposed legislation to be introduced to parliament that would ban kids under 16 from using social media, even if they have parental consent. Initially we thought this was great. But once we scratched the surface we realised that maybe it wasn't as good as it initially appeared.We speak about the pros and cons of implementing age restrictions on social media, whether it's a bit of a performative action, how it would be implemented and if there are alternative ways to protect kids online.  Britt got to enjoy Coldplay and Laura got to enjoy Chris Martin walk solo down Bondi beach looking very, very 'cool'! You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! xxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

It's our weekly round up! The best of the week from our National radio show THE PICKUP. Every week we are joined by our radio co-host Mitch Churi at 3pm on the KIIS Network. You can listen live on iHeart radio, or catch up here each week!For more follow @THEPICKUP on socials. On the show:  2024 Oxford Dictionary Word of the year Tom Hanks and the best years of lifeFirst date red flag questionsMitch's naked haircutJamie Oliver  You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktokSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Hey lifers and welcome back to Ask Uncut where we answer your deep, dark and burning questions! First question of the day is who is your 'hear me out' character (which fictional character are you attracted to)? Laura revealed her attraction to Barney the dinosaur by accident the other day and Britt is quite the fan of the ninja turtle Leonardo who would be in their 40s/50s now... Keeshia has a question about tipping etiquette; how do you feel when the tip is automatically applied when it comes to pay and if you don't want to tip, you're expected to select to remove it? Vibes for the week:Laura: The Mailroom coBritt: The Trial of DiddyKeeshia: Christophe Robin Scalp Scrub Then we answer your questions! HE DOESN'T WANT ME TO USE OUR EMBRYOSMy ex husband left me & after 4 years of IVF. We have embryos in storage (we have one beautiful little IVF baby girl) who is my entire world. But I would love to make her a big sister one day too! He has so easily just said let’s donate the spare embryos. I am mortified by how easily he has suggested this and absolutely not interested in donating, I want them! They’re my babies. I walked through the toughest times of my life undergoing IVF and on my 8th transfer, I got my beautiful girl. I’m 33 and I don’t know if I should freeze my eggs and get a donor sperm .. or wait till I ‘might’ meet someone. PSA - I will continue to pay for storage for my embryo babies as I love them too! I also didn’t see our marriage being something that would end but he clearly fell out of love with me & left me 10 months postpartum. CHRISTMAS WITH PARTNER’S FAMILYI have been invited to spend Xmas with my partner's family interstate (we are mid 20s and dated for almost 6 years). My family has been disapproving/disappointed when I told them about not having Xmas at home and tried to guilt trip me out of accepting the invite. However, I really do want to go. How do I approach the topic again with them and is it wrong to spend one Xmas away from your family? THE SEX ISN'T GOOD. HOW DO I NAVIGATE THIS? I've been in a relationship with this guy for 6 months and everything is great. He is a wonderful guy and we share the same sense of humour. He could be my person, however there is one glaring problem. The sex is not good. He's a jack hammer kind of guy where he seems to only be interested in pleasing himself. I have done all of the things that you would normally recommend; we have had the conversations and I have tried to softly guide him to do the things in the way that I like it. The problem is that he does the things I like for about a week and then goes back to the jack hammering. How do I navigate this? How important is having great sex in a relationship?    You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! xxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Elizabeth Gilbert is one of the most brilliant authors of our time. She authored ‘Eat, Pray, Love’ which sold over 12 million copies and was then turned into a movie starring Julia Roberts. She’s also written books like ‘Committed’, ‘Big Magic’ and ‘City of Girls’.  Elizabeth shares so many teachings around vulnerability, connectedness, living a life that is led by love,  and now  how to become ‘a relaxed woman, pushing back on the expectations of what society wants from you’.  Today we spoke about: Being an award winning writer who wrote about men and was sympathetic to the male experience, until she wrote the number 1 ‘chick-lit’ book of our time. Funnily enough, the award nominations dried up. The shared experience of having everything that we are meant to ‘want’ and feeling so deeply unhappy.  How Liz used to drain herself by giving her everything to relationships, and how free she now feels being emotionally autonomous  The facts about how marriage affects women: married women don’t live as long as single women, they’re more likely to report being depressed and anxious, they are more likely to have autoimmune conditions, more likely to be addicted to substances etc.  How all of our lives could be titled ‘not exactly what I had in mind’ The complexity of falling in love with someone knowing it will hurt other people that you care about Learning about loss through grief You can find Liz’s Aus and NZ tour dates You can follow Liz on Instagram  You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! xx  See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Hey guys!Britt and Keeshia have spent the entire weekend together and they're the friends that ask you if you can come to Africa tomorrow.Laura shared a story about some of the early days of Marlie's life that aren't quite her best moments! Laura would love to know how many times your kid accidentally rolled off the bed? We unpack the goss from the Wicked premiere! We were interested in how they would approach the PR of the film given the reputational damage that Ariana Grande and Ethan Slater suffered after having a rumoured 'affair.' We wondered whether they would take a 'Don't Worry Darling" approach (Harry Styles and Olivia Wilde) where they kept space from each other in public, or if they would lean in to their romance!There was one line in the movie that we are shocked they kept in!Plus, what would bring you to 'loyalty test' your partner?We speak about the 'how' and the 'why' you may get to a place where you consider conducting a loyalty test. Is the entrapment just as bad as the potential cheating? If you'd like to have your say on the content we make, you can fill in our survey! You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! xx  See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Hey Lifers!Happy Halloween!! Some of our team are more into it than others and you can come to us for all your budget, last minute Halloween costume needs!Are you a Halloween person? Laura's kids are super excited and have been counting down the days, while Britt has outed herself as a bit of a grinch.Vibes for the week: Keeshia - A Man Called Otto film (on apple TV)  Laura - Jailbreak. Love on the Run on Netflix Britt - Dessert Little Moons Mochi Balls WE'D LOVE IF YOU COULD TAKE THE TIME TO HAVE YOUR SAY ON OUR LIFE UNCUT SURVEY Then we get into your questions! DO I TELL HIM ABOUT MY PAST AS A SEX WORKER? When I was 18, I had huge body insecurity and felt like I was unlovable unless I got my boobs done. I also could not find a job, and thought the way to pay for my boobs was to get into escorting. I was very young and naive, and had only had one sexual experience before getting into it, so it was quite unsettling and traumatic. I did it for three months, but couldn’t continue because of my mental health. I ended up going back when I was age 19 and saw a client a handful of times, before deciding I could never go back. I then entered a fairly toxic relationship. When that ended I got therapy because I was in a bad place, and it changed my life. I have now got a great career and finished my degree, and have met my now partner of one year. I am now 24. My question is, should I tell him about my past? Do I need to? If so, how should I do it? Unfortunately I feel like there is still so much stigma around the sex industry. While he is incredible, I have heard him make a comment about a stripper he once slept with, saying she was “just a stripper” as if it meant she was less than. Aside from that, he is so caring, thoughtful and emotionally intelligent. He is very secure and perhaps would struggle to understand what I was going through at 18/19. I really want to be with him forever, and I don’t want anything to risk coming between us, but I feel like he might look at me differently if he knows. I have come so far since I was a scared, insecure 18/19 year old and I don’t want the decisions I made to prevent me from being happy now. Would love for your advice on how I could bring it with him and if it is even worth doing, as it is not like I think about my past everyday! It is only when something triggers it. MY BOYFRIEND IS MOVING IN WITH A WOMAN I have been long distance with my partner of 5 years for a little over a year now (he moved for work). He is the most amazing partner and definitely my penguin. In the last 6 months he has made a good female friend at work. I have met her quite a few times. She is lovely and we get along very well. Recently both my partner and his female friend have had a change in living situations and he asked me if I would be comfortable with them becoming roommates. He does everything to try and make me comfortable and he won’t move in with her if I don’t want him to. I trust him and her completely, yet it makes me feel a bit uncomfortable and I can’t put my finger on why. Maybe jealousy?? But I trust both of them. Is me feeling weird about it ok or am I being unreasonable and I should just let him move in with one of his only friends he has been able to make (it is so hard for adults to make friends in new cities). Would love to know your thoughts? CAUGHT BROTHER CHEATING A few months ago I stumbled across my bro’s profile on a dating app. Profile stated “not looking for anything serious”. We aren’t close - don't have mutual interests, hobbies or compatible personalities, but still see each other at family events etc. Issue is, he has been in a long distance relationship for well over a year. She had returned back overseas less than a week before I saw his profile - it was definitely him, photos were 100% his, the hobbies, interests, age etc were all accurate. My brother is not someone I would have ever considered to be a player or open relationship-er - very conservative. The girlfriend is nice enough - very young, very sweet, very smart. Not someone I could imagine being open. I thought they might’ve split but I hadn’t yet found out. I found out recently he’s going overseas to see her soon -so are definitely together. Idk what to do/think! Help! You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! xx  See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Haven Shepherd was born in Vietnam. When she was 16 months old, her biological parents, who had had an affair, detonated a bomb that was intended to be a family suicide. It instantly killed her biological parents but Haven survived. Haven was thrown 10 metres from the family hut and driven for 2 hours on a motorbike to the local hospital where they amputated both of her legs. She hasn’t had surgery since!4 months later, she was adopted into an American family and gained 6 siblings! Haven is now an elite paralympic athlete who competed at Tokyo 2020. She also happens to be a laugh and a half with some of the most outrageous ‘double decker’ date stories we’ve ever heard!In the chat we speak about: What Haven remembers about her early years Whether she holds resent for her biological parents How strangers ask inappropriate questions about how Haven lost her legs How Haven’s parents initially weren’t going to be her parents and the serendipitous way they found each other Why swimming was the best option for her How parents should teach their kids about disability You can find more from Haven's Instagram! You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! xx  See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Hey Lifers!Britt has potentially found a new life... as a trad wife! Either that or she's going off grid more often.Laura has had a bit of a mishap spreading her beautiful grandparent's ashes.How do you feel about sharing your kids online? Where is the line when it comes to kids being paid to create online content? You might remember the horrible story of the mum, Ruby Franke, who was charged with 4 counts of child abuse earlier this year. There is a brand new film called 'Mormon Mom Gone Wrong' that came out on Oct 26 that details the story of the Franke family and their youtube account that had 2 million subscribers.Shari Franke is now 21 years old and has shared her testimony in court about her experiences of abuse and family vlogging. She states that there is no such thing as a moral and ethical family vlogger.We unpack these questions: Should children have a say in family vlogging content? What are the ethical implications of involving kids in content? Can you get informed consent from kids? How should kids be ‘compensated’ if they are making content that makes money? Does it matter if they make money? Does it change when it becomes a significant income source? You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! xx    See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.