The Imperfects

How long have you been holding on to that grudge? Are you picturing that person or moment right now? Have you ever considered what a step towards forgiveness might look like? These are BIG questions, and thank God, Dr Emily, our resident psychologist, is here to talk us through it all. In today’s episode, Dr Em begins by acknowledging that resentment is a normal human emotion. Phew. However, holding on to resentment for prolonged periods of time can have a serious impact on your physical and emotional wellbeing, as well as your relationships (just ask Hugh and Josh). Then we get onto the F-word. Yep, that’s right. We’re talking about forgiveness. And more specifically, how forgiveness is FOR YOU, and not about excusing behaviour. So get comfy, and enjoy the last of Dr Em for 2024. To watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link - https://bit.ly/4i1FETt 🎧Things to listen to: Sean Turnell - A Prisoner’s Guide to Life - https://apple.co/3yGPickGina Chick - Don’t Fight Life - https://apple.co/3UKpxQ8Dr Emily - Truth v Harmony - https://apple.co/40pgYO7 📖 Things to read: Let Go by Hugh van Cuylenburg - https://bit.ly/4fpridx 💻 Things to check out: Fred Luskin’s research into Forgiveness - https://bit.ly/40DYgCC The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

You may know Peter Bol as the 800m runner, who came fourth in the 2021 Tokyo Olympics and second in the 2022 Commonwealth Games. Or, if you’re Hugh, you may have hundreds of photos of Peter training. Wherever you are on the Peter-obsession-meter, we think you’re going to love this episode. Our chat with Peter starts in Sudan, where Peter and his family moved as a unit, through Egypt, before settling in Australia. They were chasing safety and opportunity, two values that continue to ground Peter through all of his sporting success. In 2023, Peter was on the most amazing upward trajectory, he'd just become the WA Young Australian of the year and things were looking good for the Paris 2024 Olympics. Then he was completely derailed with a false-positive drug test. Hugh, Ryan, and Josh talk to Peter about how he remained consciously grateful and resilient throughout the entire saga and was able to instil within himself such fundamental lessons around positivity, justice and mindset. Peter, we (Hugh) will see you on the track soon. To watch this full video on YouTube, follow this link: https://bit.ly/4hC3CnP 🎧 Things to listen to: How To Write A Gratitude Letter - https://apple.co/3NGhccf 📺 Things to watch: Peter Bol’s 2021 Olympic 800m Race - https://bit.ly/4fhNPbS 📱Apps to download BBL - https://bit.ly/4hldXVd  See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

In this long-awaited Academy of Imperfection, we chat to psychologist Janelle Booker, who specialises in ADHD and Highly Sensitive Person trait. There is SO MUCH to learn (and love) about an ADHD brain. We learn how ADHDers are often extremely creative, innovative, and talented, and in the right conditions, absolutely thrive. However, ADHDers may struggle with executive functions such as time keeping, organisation and emotional regulation, which can make daily life really hard and exhausting. People with ADHD can be more susceptible to mental health issues such as depression and anxiety, as well as dopamine boosting activities such as risk-taking behaviour, addiction and disordered eating. This is why seeking the right diagnosis and treatment plan can be really impactful.  With school as a battleground, and friendships sometimes hard to maintain, Hugh, Ryan and Josh chat through how neurotypical people can be better allies and support systems to ADHDers, as friends, partners, employers, and parents. On a HSP note (not the snack pack, unfortunately), we bet a few of you might resonate with Janelle’s explanation, especially since 15-20% of the population have the Highly Sensitive Person trait. Janelle, it was an absolute pleasure, and we can’t believe we didn’t do this sooner. Janelle is based in Western Australia, and her practice Janelle Booker Psychology, will be accepting new clients in February 2025. Click here to find out more - https://bit.ly/3BZimwO To watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3NPDDf7 💻 ADHD Resources to check out: ADHD Foundation Australia Hotline - https://adhdfoundation.org.au/adhdStardust Support - https://www.stardustsupport.com.au/Curtin University ADHD Support Group - https://bit.ly/40fIm14For support groups at other universities, contact your counselling or psychology service 🎧 Things to listen to: Fern Brady - Autistic in a Non-Autistic World - https://apple.co/48nT3AxJackson Tozer - Don’t Give Up On Me - https://apple.co/3yHdawfDr. Emily - Truth vs Harmony - https://apple.co/40pgYO7 📖 Things to read: Elaine Aron’s work on HSP - https://bit.ly/4eYlO9HResearch paper on ADHD genes - https://go.nature.com/3YGcgui 📺 Things to watch: ADHD Meme Account Recommended by Ryan - https://bit.ly/3YrxwCt The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Chef extraordinaire, creative genius and owner of Attica, Ben Shewry is welcomed back to the studio, this time into the Vulnerabilitea House. In this episode, Ben answers the question, “When was a time you stayed silent, and regretted it?” and talks about his own culpability in racism, and how this event shaped the person that he is today. Hugh and Josh share a moment they wish they could have back, and how they have been moving through the shame to do better next time. In determining what success means to him, Ben talks so graciously about how showing sensitivity and love within relationships leads to deeper connections, and a more enriching life. Ben, we’re IN LOVE with you. To watch this full episode on YouTube, click here - https://youtu.be/s2ZnJ1fw35w 📖 Things to read: Uses for Obsession by Ben Shewry - https://bit.ly/4f8Z6eA 🎧 Things to listen to: Ben Shewry (Pt 1) - The Other Side of Excellence - https://apple.co/4hhc2RBBen Shewry (Pt 2) - How The Chef Was Made - https://apple.co/48hrQiQRana Hussain - Belonging for Connection - https://apple.co/3NwftWCSlip Slidin’ Away by Paul Simon - https://bit.ly/3NyRqGL 🍴Things to check out: Attica - https://www.attica.com.au  See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

It’s tiiimmmmeeee, to get vulnyyyyy (again). And this time, we’re talking about year 12 exams. With the WHOLE TEAM! Whether you’ve hid a possum in your cupboard the night before your English exam, or lost your voice on stage in your drama final, or maybe didn’t even take exams, we’ve been there, and we’re here to tell you, it will be okay. So, get out your papers and pens (do kids still use these?), sit down and enjoy. Love, The Imperfects. To watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link - https://bit.ly/3YkRBuk See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

As an author, journalist and broadcaster, Dr Julia Baird has spent the last decade researching awe, wonder, grace and forgiveness (...and now the title makes sense!). Finding joy and purpose through ocean swimming, Julia shows us how impactful nature and community can be when we say yes to adventure (and also what to do when caught in a rip). With Josh out sick, Ryan and Hugh do the heavy lifting with bountiful good questions, Ryan becomes enlightened and discovers the meaning behind church (no really, he’s onto something), and Hugh and Ryan get deep with Julia and discuss the role of justice in forgiveness and the place of grace in today’s society. Julia, it was such an honour, and definitely a name ticked off our dream-guest bucket list. To watch the full episode on YouTube click here - https://youtu.be/3Xjy4eABOQ4 🎧Things to listen to: Not Stupid podcast with Julia Baird and Jeremy Fernandez - https://apple.co/4h3mhISGrace Tame - “Sexy-time, Scissoring, Autism” - https://apple.co/404jXv7All that really matters - Teddy Swims - https://bit.ly/3NmAt26Renegades: Born in the USA with Barack Obama and Bruce Springsteen - https://apple.co/3BJbhQW 📖 Things to read Julia Baird’s ‘Staying Upright’ ABC column - https://ab.co/4f31HGNPhosphorescence by Julia Baird - https://bit.ly/3Y2MK0MBright Shining by Julia Baird - https://bit.ly/4eNfaCXSilent Spring by Rachel Carlson - https://bit.ly/3NpOhcfThe Sense of Wonder by Rachel Carlson - https://bit.ly/3A5UPcPThe Sound of a Wild Snail Eating by Elisabeth Tova Bailey - https://amzn.to/3A1w3L1AWE by Dacher Keltner - https://amzn.to/3BGEk7EThe Courage To Be Disliked by Ichiro Kishimi and Fumitake Koga 📺 Things to watch Barack Obama singing Amazing Grace - https://bit.ly/3BG1WsVThe Pool documentary - https://thepoolfilm.au 🌊 Information about Ocean Swimming Groups Phosphorescence Swimming Group (Melbourne) - https://bit.ly/488EWPpMargaret River Swimming Group - https://ab.co/4dKT02P  See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

The birth of a child is completely overwhelming, in every way. What gets you through is your newfound love and connection. Right? But what happens when your heart doesn’t break open with love? What happens when you don’t feel what you’re meant to be feeling? Jack Post is a pillar of Australian radio. Cackling Jack of Hamish and Andy, Side-Kick of the Christian O’Connell Show, Jack has worked hard to always be in the right place at the right time. In this Vulnerabilitea House, Jack is so remarkably honest about his experience with post-natal depression. The shame, the unbearable expectation, the support, and the newfound self-love, Jack shares his journey and the hard work that he has done to get here. This is not an easy conversation, but it is such a very important one. We don’t have favourites, but this episode is an exception. Jack, it was an honour speaking to you. We love you so much. To watch this full episode on YouTube, click here - https://youtu.be/1ly4jm4vrqA 🎧 Things to listen to: Hamish & Andy Podcast- https://apple.co/47YDVJCThe Christian O’Connell Breakfast Show - https://bit.ly/47VdSTKRyan Shelton - Shame, Jealousy & Purpose - https://apple.co/4gWYZEs 💻 Things to check out: SYN FM Radio Program - https://bit.ly/47WXhis If you, or someone you know, is struggling with post-natal depression, these are a few great resources: PANDA - https://panda.org.auDadSpace - https://www.dadspace.com.au The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

We’re gettin’ vullllnnnnyyyyy. Oooohhhhh yeahhhhhh. Yeah, that’s right. We’re trying something new. And, in the coolest way possible, we really hope you like it. Specifically, Josh is gettin’ vulny, and letting us in on a little something he’s been working on (or hoping to work on) (he’s nervous). We’re so proud of you Josh, and we can’t wait to see everyone there x TO BUY TICKETS TO JOSH’S GIG (!!!!!) - follow this link: https://bit.ly/3zG9XxG To watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3YiWANo 🎧 Things to listen to: The Vulnerabilitea House - Josh van Cuylenburg - https://apple.co/4dKKbpIVulnerability Update - Josh Wrote a Song! - https://bit.ly/3Nld9BVJames Clear - Down The Habit Hole - https://bit.ly/3XZhQGr 📺 Things to watch: we were here - Josh van Cuylenburg Official Video - https://bit.ly/405eFzsNick Cave Australian Story - https://bit.ly/4858zRY See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Do you believe that if you stop worrying, the worst-case scenario will happen? According to Dr Emily, uncertainty, is the only certainty (mic drop) (jaw drop) (the crowd goes silent). If you weren’t having an existential crisis yet, strap yourself in, because today we’re talking worry and uncertainty. In this emisode, our resident psychologist Dr Emily Musgrove talks us through our new-age uncertainty intolerance, and why we continuously seek reassurance and data to drive our decision-making process. We talk big, global-warming size unpredictability, and also small, picking a restaurant without reading reviews uncertainty, to explore the role of worry in our lives. Without further ado, let’s dive into the unknown and find safety in the present moment. You can watch this full episode on YouTube here - https://youtu.be/jo5Ex1a2OwM 🎧Things to listen to: Myf Warhurst - The Anxiety of Uncertainty - https://apple.co/3Z2KKYjDr Louise Newson - Maybe It’s Menopause - https://apple.co/4cAKDq8Sean Turnell - A Prisoner’s Guide to Life - https://apple.co/3yGPickAnn Davidman - Should You Have Children? - https://apple.co/3MivhMnDr Emily - The Risk of Avoiding Risk - https://apple.co/4fZpp8cElizabeth Day - The Me-est Version of Me - https://apple.co/47PubRU 📺Things to watch: Brene Brown - The Call to Courage - https://bit.ly/3AD6XSR 💻Things to check out: Mother of Mindfulness (Ellen Langer) - Making the Decision Right - https://bit.ly/4eKjoLaIncreasing Intolerance of Uncertainty Over Time - Nicholas Carleton - https://bit.ly/47PMRB8Rick Hanson - I am all right, right now - https://bit.ly/3AFIe07 The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Author, business lady and skincare wizard (according to her customs card), Zoë Foster Blake is nothing short of prolific. Chatting with Hugh, Ryan and Josh in this Vulnerabilitea House, Zoë talks through the pressure and responsibility she felt during her loneliest time. Striking ‘luck’ as a dirty word, Zoë’s compulsion to be productive and produce ‘good work’ has earned her a multitude of publishing awards for her numerous books, the production of one of her novels into a TV show, the stocking of her skincare brand Go-To in Mecca and Sephora, and a cult following. But something’s gotta give when you’re striving to have it all, and Zoë knows better than anyone how relationships, mental and physical health can all suffer when you’re burn-out adjacent. Zoë preaches the importance of sleep, and discusses how she combats anxious thoughts before bedtime, as well as perimenopause (and how you’re probably gaslighting yourself into thinking you aren’t going through it). Zoë, what a joy. To watch this episode on YouTube, follow this link: https://youtu.be/cfaS-lIj9Mk 📖 Things to read: Things Will Calm Down Soon (Zoë’s BRAND NEW book) - https://bit.ly/3XWiTIA Scaredy Bath by Zoë Foster Blake - https://bit.ly/3XQ3A3QNo One Likes A Fart by Zoë Foster Blake - https://bit.ly/3Xz3wEuZoë’s entire back catalogue of books - https://bit.ly/3ZyMQj2How To Be Idle by Tom Hodgkinson - https://bit.ly/3Zto6ZsThis Is Marketing by Seth Godin - https://amzn.to/4dhxh2f 💻 Things to Check Out Go-To, Bro-To and Gro-To Skincare - https://gotoskincare.comBalance App - https://bit.ly/3FOhpWS 📺Things to Watch The Wrong Girl - https://apple.co/3Bg5nqeMichael Phelps Doorway Technique - https://bit.ly/3XAT9QzSlumdog Millionaire - https://bit.ly/3Zw2lIj 🎧Things to listen to Dr Louise Newson - Maybe It’s Menopause - https://apple.co/4cAKDq8See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dr Billy Garvey gets kids. A developmental and behavioural paediatrician with over twenty years experience, Billy is an expert at up-skilling kids with the fundamental skills of empathy, kindness, compassion and self-esteem. Due to the extremely high demand for his expertise (the clinic waiting list is most likely seven years long at this point), Billy decided to co-produce his own podcast ‘Pop-Culture Parenting’, and has also just released a book Ten Things I Wish You Knew About Your Child’s Mental Health. In this Academy, Billy gets into the nitty gritty about masculinity, role modelling and teaching emotional regulation to kids, especially young boys (we even talk about porn). Extremely generous in sharing his own story, Billy reveals the purpose behind his clinic, and how he finds immense privilege in being here to do the work that he does (you’re going to need tissues). Thank you Billy, it is always pleasure.To watch this episode on YouTube, follow this link: https://bit.ly/47BHJAw 📖Things to read: Ten Things I Wish You Knew About Your Child’s Mental Health by Dr Billy Garvey - https://bit.ly/4eqyTb6 🎧Things to listen to: The Academy of Imperfection - Dr Billy Garvey, Paediatrician - https://apple.co/4doCYM8 An Imperfect Chat About Men - https://apple.co/4e2vQpPAnother Imperfect Chat About Men - https://apple.co/3B6WkaWPop-Culture Parenting - https://bit.ly/4e0VRppKendrick Lamar: The Art of Peer Pressure - https://bit.ly/3TupbMT 💻Things to check out: Social Learning Theory - https://bit.ly/3ZlYGwP and https://bit.ly/4dV9NkJ This episode references domestic violence. If this feels like too much for you to listen to right now, please skip this one, and come back when you are ready. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

For Nathan Buckley, self-reflection is critical for becoming the person he wants to be.  Placed on a pedestal during his playing career (for good reason), Bucks was Collingwood’s favourite son, and GOD he felt the pressure. Communicating only through criticism, both to himself and his teammates, Bucks says he was "demented" in the way he trained. In this episode, Bucks shares the steps he took to change his entire approach to playing and coaching footy. Importantly, unlearning that playing good footy meant being worthy and how letting go and asking for help completely changed his relationship with himself.Also... The Courage To Be Disliked gets a few mentions, we PROMISE Ryan isn’t sponsored, just obsessed!  Bucks, for someone who bleeds black and white, you have the biggest heart, and we love you a lot. To watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3MIykxv 📺Things to watch: Beefy’s Motivational Speech at Collingwood - https://bit.ly/3T9dCubHugh’s ‘GEM’ Amazon Special - https://bit.ly/4dFL4AW 🎧Things to listen to: Jack Watts - Anxiety, Pressure in Football and Mistakes 📖Things to read: The Courage To Be Disliked by Ichiro Kishimi and Fumitake Koga - https://bit.ly/3Z0M1iKHow To Win Friends and Influence People by Dale Carnegie - https://amzn.to/3Z0jhqqHow To Fight The Urge to Make Everything About Yourself - https://bit.ly/3yJddb3 The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Do you feel like you're on your own side? Are you able to speak to yourself with kindness? Or stick up for yourself in front of others? That, my friend, is self-compassion and it can be incredibly hard to do.  Dr Em says, "compassion" in Latin translates to “with suffering.” And SELF-compassion is how we relate, reflect and react when our self is suffering. In this episode, Dr Em talks about why cultivating a self-compassionate voice is SO DIFFICULT, but how it's also pivotal in getting us through our darkest moments. And we chat through whether self-compassion needs a re-brand? (Hugh's gunning for self-chop-out, but we're still taking recommendations?)    To watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link: https://bit.ly/4gdli8B  📖Books Josh hasn’t read (but definitely will at some point) Against Empathy - Paul Bloom - https://amzn.to/4g53tbRFierce Compassion - Kristin Neff - https://amzn.to/4cJESGI 🎧Things to listen to Brooke Blurton - The Path of Most Resilience - https://apple.co/4e8XmkPDr Emily - Who Is Your Inner Critic & Why Is It There? - https://apple.co/3XaFdw9 💻Things to check out Kristin Neff’s online resources - https://bit.ly/3XspqKLPaul Gilbert’s review on Self-Compassion - https://bit.ly/3AQbJML Dr Emily is a clinical psychologist and you can find out more about her here - https://bit.ly/4gesuBy The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.  See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

In this Vulnerabilitea House, Grace addresses her adolescent self with a simple message - “It wasn’t your fault.” Australian of the Year, Next Generation Leader (as voted by Time Magazine), ultra-marathon runner and changer of laws, Grace Tame can't be tamed. Here she discusses the uncomfortable truths of her child sexual abuse, grooming & rape. She shares how survival mode became her new normal while dealing, and continuously recounting, her trauma in the public eye. Talking body, Grace is honest about her struggle with anorexia and the relief (after a whole lot of pain) of a recent endometriosis diagnosis.Ohh and she talks about autism, in the most beautiful unfiltered way!  Grace, it was the biggest privilege to have you in the studio. We love you immensely. To see Grace speak live (we implore you to), tickets for her show, Lightening the Load with Grace Tame are available here - https://bit.ly/3MitxTh. To watch the full episode on YouTube, follow this link: https://bit.ly/4cMEvLC 📖Things to Read The Ninth Life of a Diamond Miner: A Memoir - https://bit.ly/3AMZX5zBetrayed by my body - Michael Salter - https://bit.ly/3AzB2m0 💻Things to check out The Grace Tame Foundation - https://bit.ly/4cEHtld 📺Things to watch Grace’s Australian of the Year Award Speech - https://ab.co/3yVZBJr 🦋 If you or someone you know if experiencing an eating disorder, these are some helpful resources to look into: The Butterfly Foundation - https://butterfly.org.au/Eating Disorders Families Australia - https://edfa.org.auUncovery - https://bit.ly/3x4IOCO The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14. Or visit the below support services.  Beyond Blue - https://www.beyondblue.org.auSuicide Call Back Service - 1300 659 467 - https://www.suicidecallbackservice.org.au/Reach Out - https://au.reachout.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Have you ever felt excluded? Or like you don't belong? It turns out that belonging is a fundamental human need. To thrive, we need to feel safe, we need to feel welcome, but very importantly, we need to know the tribe has our back. In this Academy of Imperfection, Hugh, Ryan and Josh chat to founder of Good Human, Rana Hussain. Rana is a host of The Outer Sanctum podcast, a board member of Reconciliation Australia and consultant to a plethora of elite sporting clubs on bettering their diversity and inclusion strategies.In this episode, she shares how to get curious in a respectful way, why listening is everything and how to live a life true to your identity. Ohh and there's a pretty incredible love story in the ep as well!   Rana, it was an absolute joy, and you definitely left us better than you found us. To watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link - 💻Things to check out Good Human - https://www.goodhuman.auMaslow’s Hierarchy of Needs - https://bit.ly/4dsy3KX 🎧Things to listen to The Outer Sanctum - https://spoti.fi/3WJ9iCUPallavi Sharda - Where We Belong - https://apple.co/3M3iEV5Dr Emily - Other People Matter - https://apple.co/3M4A8k8 📖Things to read Belonging: The Ancient Code of Togetherness by Owen Eastwood - https://amzn.to/3M7s16l The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

‘The Inspired Unemployed’ began when a couple of tradies, Jack Steele and Matt ‘Falcon’ Ford, began an Instagram to catalogue the skits they were writing and filming overseas. Since then, Jack and Falcon have launched Australia’s fastest selling beer, collaborated with Fendi and Louis Vuitton, have 2 million followers on Instagram, launched a podcast exclusive to Spotify AND star in their own TV show The Inspired Unemployed (Impractical) Jokers. Life, from the outside, seems pretty much perfect. In this Vulnerabilitea House we chat with Jack Steele about his fear of losing relevance. Extremely generous in his vulnerability, Jack opens up about his terrifying panic attacks, anxiety over not being productive; his ADHD diagnosis; and what it’s like to live and work with your best mate, while still trying to be, well, best mates. Jack, we’re in love with you. To watch this full episode on YouTube, click this link: https://youtu.be/xxAx0kOOAo8  🎧Things to listen to: Hamish MacDonald- How To Be You - https://bit.ly/4dhN8Ph 📖Things to read: ADHD 2.0 - Edward Hallowell - https://bit.ly/4dlE8IP 📱Things to scroll: The Inspired Unemployed on Instagram - https://bit.ly/4dDpdtm 📺Things to watch: The Inspired Unemployed (Impractical) Jokers - https://bit.ly/4fGD2JmAnomalisa - https://bit.ly/3Avx1il 📋Things to do: Maria’s Resilience First Aid Training - https://bit.ly/4dEYzQT 👨‍🦲Things for hair loss Hugh’s hairspray product - https://bit.ly/3yuh4ssFinasteride (please note this a prescription product and should only be used after a consultation with your GP) - https://bit.ly/3WNw2BI The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Settle in and grab your notebooks, you’re in for a good one. We’re joined by Maria Ruberto, director and founder of Salutegenics Psychology, who just happens to be Ryan and Josh’s (ex) psychologist. Maria is the co-designer of Resilience First Aid, an internationally recognised two-day certification program, which teaches the neuroscience of resilience (Ryan took sooooo many notes). We discuss with Maria the relationship between biology and behaviour, and the six domains of resilience. Getting technical, we delve into the negatives of screen time (hello darkness our old friend) and the ridiculously positive benefits of doing stuff with other people. So join us as we get started on building our resilience toolbox, practice breathing like a baby AND co-regulate like it’s no one’s business. To sign up to Maria’s Resilience First Aid training, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3WuhOFG To watch this full episode on YouTube, click here: https://bit.ly/3AvhAqp  🎧Things to listen to: Dr Emily - A Guide To Getting Therapy - https://bit.ly/3WSCF7fThe Academy of Imperfection - Ben Crowe - https://bit.ly/3MrxtRN Gary Barlow - The Pain Behind The Pleasure - https://apple.co/4dzh356Esther Perel - Let’s Be Better Lovers - https://apple.co/3Af9OB6 📖 Things to read: Stress Study: https://bit.ly/46A9bOBDefining Protective Resilience: https://bit.ly/3SFBQfmResilience First Aid Evaluation: https://bit.ly/4dFRXll The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Jackson Tozer embodies the essence of The Imperfects podcast. Well, that’s what Ryan thinks, and we’re pretty keen to agree. Hugely successful and outrageously talented, Jackson, from the outside, is living the dream. Behind the professional success of acting alongside Shaun Micallef, John Cena and Zac Efron (and Ryan, can’t forget Ryan), Jackson found himself learning how to be a high-functioning addict (literally high) at rock bottom. Sharing his experience with grief, the loss of his best friend and marijuana addiction, which contributed to his battle with bulimia, anxiety and depression, we thank Jackson for being so bloody generous with his vulnerability.This episode with Jackson Tozer includes a discussion about eating disorders, marijuana addiction and suicide . If this feels like too much for you right now, please come back to this episode when you're ready. To watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link - https://bit.ly/3YrXrf9 Join Movember and be part of the solution. To advocate for more action around men's health, head to https://bit.ly/3yv9BZX  🎭Things to check out Jackson’s Fringe Show - https://bit.ly/4cYNXwfJackson on Instagram - https://bit.ly/3YoQoDZCommunity Care Collective - https://bit.ly/3zYbUFb 📺Things to watch Ricky Stanicky - https://bit.ly/4bYQXatMr Inbetween - https://bit.ly/4d4YZ31 🎧Things to listen to The Killers - Rut - https://bit.ly/4cUn4JM If you or someone you love is suffering from a marijuana addiction, these are some good places to start: Call DirectLine on 1800 888 236 for 24hr supportMarijuana Anonymous Australia - https://bit.ly/3WG4bojFamily Drug Support - https://www.fds.org.au/ 🦋 If you or someone you know if experiencing an eating disorder, these are some helpful resources to look into: The Butterfly Foundation - https://butterfly.org.au/Eating Disorders Families Australia - https://edfa.org.auUncovery - https://bit.ly/3x4IOCO The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14. Or visit the below support services.  Beyond Blue - https://www.beyondblue.org.auSuicide Call Back Service - 1300 659 467 - https://www.suicidecallbackservice.org.au/Reach Out - https://au.reachout.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This is not compulsory listening, but then again, it kind of is. We’re back to have another imperfect conversation about men, violence and consent, because we're still imperfect and we believe reflecting on behaviour is key to changing it.  We don't have all the answers, but in collaboration with Teach Us Consent and future OAM Chanel Contos, we’ve come up with some new Vulnerabilitea House questions to help anyone get vulnerable and think deeply about these issues.  In all honesty, we’re pretty nervous about answering them, but reflecting and getting vulnerable with ourselves and others is how we do better and become the people we want to be. You can find the questions on our instagram: https://bit.ly/4dnfjvO Vulnerability is the willingness to be seen as our authentic selves, even when we don’t know how others will respond. To be vulnerable is to take an emotional risk and while it does promote connection, it can also cause distress and should never be forced. So take care of yourself and others while answering these questions. Always vulnerable responsibly.  To watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link - https://bit.ly/4fx8lWP  🎧Things to listen to Chanel Contos - Consensual Healing - https://link.chtbl.com/mhDPOcpHAn Imperfect Chat About Men - https://link.chtbl.com/BVlSy3Kf 📖Things to read Chanel Contos - Consent Laid Bare - https://bit.ly/3RNKpEm Malcolm Gladwell - Blink - https://bit.ly/3WG8Er7 💻 Things to help you learn Teach Us Consent Instagram - https://bit.ly/4dlzKJGTeach Us Consent Website - https://www.teachusconsent.comOur Watch - https://bit.ly/3w0BQhVWhite Ribbon - https://bit.ly/3W6nMhs If you're a man concerned about your behaviour please contact No To Violence: https://bit.ly/3UlyiA5 If you feel like you are in immediate danger please call 000. If you need someone to talk to we recommend the nation24-hour national sexual assault, family and domestic violence counselling line 1800 RESPECT on 1800 732 732. If you need support for your own mental health of the back of this episode please contact Lifeline on 13 11 14.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dis episode is a little bit different, but if you’re as obsessed with Hugh van Cuylenburg as we are, we think you’ll enjoy it. The Resilience Project (TRP) is the company that Hugh started building 12 years ago. Today, it delivers evidence-based, wellbeing programs to over 1000 schools in Australia, as well as countless work-places and helps provide people with strategies to build resilience too!Hugh always knew that TRP would be something special, but god, it took a lot of hard work (and some might say resilience) to get it to where it is now. From the first spark of inspiration, to the make-or-break scene straight from a movie, Hugh gets pretty vulnerable with Ryan and Josh about all the ways he failed on the road to success. So grab your glitter pens, rule up your calendar, and pencil in dis super special episode.   📺 Things to watch How Hugh Built Dis on YouTube - https://bit.ly/3y8gAId 💻 Things to check out The Resilience Project - https://bit.ly/3zT8RhJThe Resilience Project Journals - https://bit.ly/3K8Z9cK 🎧 Things to listen to Martin ‘Rac’ Heppell - The other F word… Failure - https://bit.ly/4fUkDIk The Vulnerabilitea House - Martin Heppell - https://apple.co/3ZerqqN How I Built This with Yvon Chouinard (Patagonia) - https://apple.co/4bXMbdk 🦋 If you or someone you know is experiencing an eating disorder, these are some great resources to look into:  The Butterfly Foundation - https://butterfly.org.au/Eating Disorders Families Australia - https://edfa.org.auUncovery - https://bit.ly/3x4IOCO  See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.