The Self Love Fix

Beatrice Kamau

Welcome to The Self Love Fix Podcast. I’m your host, Beatrice -an embodiment coach, teacher, and mentor, and founder of The Self Love Over Codependency Program. Are you ready to finally step into your worthiness and magnetism? Are you tired of your limiting beliefs and self-doubt affecting every aspect of your life? You deserve to live an abundant life, you deserve to desire and achieve all of your dreams, and most importantly, you deserve to embody unshakable self-confidence. Believe it or not, I didn’t always embody self-trust. Most of my life, I lived at the mercy of what other people thought of me. It was only during a very low point I experienced during grad school where I asked myself, “Where does your need for perfectionism come from?” This was a game-changing moment for me. For the first time in my life, I asked myself about the origins of my behavior instead of blaming myself for them. From then on, I promised to live out my passion and mission for embodying my true essence and to teach others to do the same. That’s exactly why I created this podcast. This podcast is all about helping you shift from shame, people-pleasing, codependency, low self-esteem, and self-doubt and into alignment, expansion, and unapologetic self-trust through spirituality and healing the inner-child. For more information about the podcast, or other ways you can work with me, visit: www.beatricekamau.com I would love to connect with you more on social media! You can find me at: IG: @theselflovefix Website: beatricekamau.com read less
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225. A Conversation About When You're "Confused" About How "He Feels"
02-11-2023
225. A Conversation About When You're "Confused" About How "He Feels"
If you’re hunched over your phone with your magnifying glass out, organizing a conference call with ten of your girlfriends at once, and desperately trying to untangle whether the person you’re “talking to” wants to be in a relationship with you… He doesn’t. I say this with so much love: if you have to do this, you aren’t actually confused at all about how he feels. You know he isn’t interested in having a relationship…you just don’t like that answer. Desire is not ambiguous. Desire is CLEAR. Desire is BOLD. Desire doesn’t dither in the background waiting its turn. When a man desires you, you’ll know. So let’s talk about what it actually means when you’re “confused” about what “he wants.”   WORK WITH BEATRICE: Listen to OFF THE RECORD, a deep-dive into some of the most intimate parts of my own relationship: https://beatricekamau.com/otr    CONNECT WITH BEATRICE: Want to get to know the woman behind the podcast? Find me in these TikTok streets: https://www.tiktok.com/@iambeatricekamau  Be sure to connect with me more on Instagram @theselflovefix. I’d love to hear what you thought of this episode and what your major takeaways were. Head over to my website to learn more about how we can work together to shift your energy & transform your life. Sign up for Indulgent and Balanced™, a guilty-pleasure, FREE monthly newsletter filled with tips, honey, and sweetness designed to help you experience a delicious and pleasure-filled life FIRST so that you can take action from an aligned place: https://bold-hill-3643.ck.page/87dcb0b30c Join The Shameless Societea, where luxe bitches get together and learn to hold themselves to a higher standard, to be celebrated, to be supported, and to expand through community and vulnerability. This is where you come home to yourself. Welcome HOME. https://www.facebook.com/groups/theshamelesssocietea
224. Don't Give Up On Dating! A Relationship IS Meant For You
26-10-2023
224. Don't Give Up On Dating! A Relationship IS Meant For You
If you’ve given up on dating…this episode is for you. I’m not talking about the people who truly do not desire a relationship. I’m talking to the people who have a soul-deep desire for a relationship, but have gotten so discouraged that they’re ready to throw in the towel entirely. Listen to me–I don’t care what your situation is. I don’t care if you’re in your late 20s, 30s, 40s, etc. I don’t care if you’ve been divorced four times and can’t imagine a relationship ever working out. I don’t care if you’ve never been in a healthy relationship and are struggling to believe they even exist. A relationship IS possible for you–yes, YOU. And if you’re walking around with your head down, living in defeat, certain it’s never going to happen for you…let me give you some hope today.   WORK WITH BEATRICE: Listen to OFF THE RECORD, a deep-dive into some of the most intimate parts of my own relationship: https://beatricekamau.com/otr    CONNECT WITH BEATRICE: Want to get to know the woman behind the podcast? Find me in these TikTok streets: https://www.tiktok.com/@iambeatricekamau  Be sure to connect with me more on Instagram @theselflovefix. I’d love to hear what you thought of this episode and what your majortakeaways were. Head over to my website to learn more about how we can work together to shift your energy & transform your life. Sign up for Indulgent and Balanced™, a guilty-pleasure, FREE monthly newsletter filled with tips, honey, and sweetness designed to help you experience a delicious and pleasure-filled life FIRST so that you can take action from an aligned place: https://bold-hill-3643.ck.page/87dcb0b30c Join The Shameless Societea, where luxe bitches get together and learn to hold themselves to a higher standard, to be celebrated, to be supported, and to expand through community and vulnerability. This is where you come home to yourself. Welcome HOME. https://www.facebook.com/groups/theshamelesssocietea
223. Our Dating Story and How We Knew We Wanted to Be Together
19-10-2023
223. Our Dating Story and How We Knew We Wanted to Be Together
Ooooh, do I have a TREAT for you all today. I am absolutely giddy to welcome my boyfriend of two years, Osa, onto the podcast! Osa’s more of a behind-the-scenes type of guy. But today, we’re sitting down for a conversation about how we met, our first impressions of each other, what we think about online dating, how we transitioned from dating to a long-term relationship, and so much more! Not only that, but we’ve also slipped in a little teaser for something that we’re VERY excited about…something the two of us will be doing together! Ready for a behind-the-scenes tour of how we started out? Grab your favorite tea, settle in, and enjoy the ride!   WORK WITH BEATRICE: Listen to OFF THE RECORD, a deep-dive into some of the most intimate parts of mine and Osa’s relationship: https://beatricekamau.com/otr    CONNECT WITH BEATRICE: Want to get to know the woman behind the podcast? Find me in these TikTok streets: https://www.tiktok.com/@iambeatricekamau  Be sure to connect with me more on Instagram @theselflovefix. I’d love to hear what you thought of this episode and what your major takeaways were. Head over to my website to learn more about how we can work together to shift your energy & transform your life. Sign up for Indulgent and Balanced™, a guilty-pleasure, FREE monthly newsletter filled with tips, honey, and sweetness designed to help you experience a delicious and pleasure-filled life FIRST so that you can take action from an aligned place: https://bold-hill-3643.ck.page/87dcb0b30c Join The Shameless Societea, where luxe bitches get together and learn to hold themselves to a higher standard, to be celebrated, to be supported, and to expand through community and vulnerability. This is where you come home to yourself. Welcome HOME. https://www.facebook.com/groups/theshamelesssocietea
222. Why Finding a Partner that Leads, Plans, + is Ambitious Has Been Difficult for You
12-10-2023
222. Why Finding a Partner that Leads, Plans, + is Ambitious Has Been Difficult for You
If you believe it’s IMPOSSIBLE to attract the type of man that has ambition, makes plans, and takes charge in your relationship…I may have an idea why that is. And you’re probably not going to like hearing it. Once upon a time, I was in the same shoes as you: fed up with attracting men who wouldn’t so much as initiate a phone call, sick of having to do ALL the work in every relationship, and wondering where all the ambitious men were. But you know what else I believed? That men were dumb as rocks. No, really. I genuinely, wholeheartedly believed that men were inferior to me, that they couldn’t do anything right, and they needed my guidance in everything… But if that was true, well…why on earth would I want to have one of them leading me? It doesn’t matter what you consciously say you want. If your unconscious mind believes men are inferior, the unconscious will win over the conscious every time. Let’s talk about why this superiority is actually sabotaging our dating lives.   CONNECT WITH BEATRICE: Want to get to know the woman behind the podcast? Find me in these TikTok streets: https://www.tiktok.com/@iambeatricekamau  Be sure to connect with me more on Instagram @theselflovefix. I’d love to hear what you thought of this episode and what your major takeaways were. Head over to my website to learn more about how we can work together to shift your energy & transform your life. Sign up for Indulgent and Balanced™, a guilty-pleasure, FREE monthly newsletter filled with tips, honey, and sweetness designed to help you experience a delicious and pleasure-filled life FIRST so that you can take action from an aligned place: https://bold-hill-3643.ck.page/87dcb0b30c Join The Shameless Societea, where luxe bitches get together and learn to hold themselves to a higher standard, to be celebrated, to be supported, and to expand through community and vulnerability. This is where you come home to yourself. Welcome HOME. https://www.facebook.com/groups/theshamelesssocietea
221. The DOUBTING Phase of Relationships No One Talks About
05-10-2023
221. The DOUBTING Phase of Relationships No One Talks About
There’s one stage of new relationships that no one talks about. We try to pretend it doesn’t happen. In fact, we do one better (or worse): we usually dip out of the relationship the second we enter this phase. The first phase of any new relationship is the honeymoon phase…and it is POWERFUL. That cocktail of hormones hits HARD. We’re floating on cloud nine. All we see in front of us is our perfect, amazing partner. Everything they do is so cute and sweet and amazing… Until it isn’t. Until one day, we wake up and notice every little thing about them that actually annoys us. Welcome to the DOUBTING PHASE: the phase of relationships where we suddenly see the reality of our partner, not our hormone hopped-up perception of them.  The comedown hits even harder than the high. And unfortunately, this is where most people decide it’s time to end the relationship, because “the magic” is gone.  This phase is normal. Everyone has it. But we need to change the way we approach the doubting phase…because if we bide our time and make it to the other side, what’s waiting for us is a phase of love unlike any other.   CONNECT WITH BEATRICE: Sign up to receive daily tips over a period of 5 days on how to attract men who desire COMMITMENT–because they DO exist: https://bold-hill-3643.ck.page/2ee1aa3101  Want to get to know the woman behind the podcast? Find me in these TikTok streets: https://www.tiktok.com/@iambeatricekamau  Be sure to connect with me more on Instagram @theselflovefix. I’d love to hear what you thought of this episode and what your major takeaways were. Head over to my website to learn more about how we can work together to shift your energy & transform your life. Sign up for Indulgent and Balanced™, a guilty-pleasure, FREE monthly newsletter filled with tips, honey, and sweetness designed to help you experience a delicious and pleasure-filled life FIRST so that you can take action from an aligned place: https://bold-hill-3643.ck.page/87dcb0b30c Join The Shameless Societea, where luxe bitches get together and learn to hold themselves to a higher standard, to be celebrated, to be supported, and to expand through community and vulnerability. This is where you come home to yourself. Welcome HOME. https://www.facebook.com/groups/theshamelesssocietea
220. Dating Requires Your Effort (Contrary to Popular Belief)
28-09-2023
220. Dating Requires Your Effort (Contrary to Popular Belief)
If you’re walking around telling yourself “I DESERVE a relationship…” Sit down for a second. Let’s talk. I say this because I love you: you do not “deserve” a relationship.  You don’t deserve anything from another individual just because you want it.  Imagine if you walked into a job interview. You did no prep. You did no research. You wore your sweats. And when they start asking you questions, you just go, “What do you mean? Why are you asking me this? I deserve this job. Just give it to me.” They would look at you like you were FUCKING DELUSIONAL…because you’d have to be in order to act that way. We all know we can’t act like that in most areas of our lives. But when it comes to dating…all that goes flying out the window, and suddenly we’re deep in our entitled princess energy, believing we deserve something we didn’t put in the work for. If dating feels like it’s too hard, it’s probably because you’re approaching it with a heavy vibe of entitlement and need. But I promise you this: if you just shift this perspective, your dating life will be completely transformed.   CONNECT WITH BEATRICE: Sign up to receive daily tips over a period of 5 days on how to attract men who desire COMMITMENT–because they DO exist: https://bold-hill-3643.ck.page/2ee1aa3101  Want to get to know the woman behind the podcast? Find me in these TikTok streets: https://www.tiktok.com/@iambeatricekamau  Be sure to connect with me more on Instagram @theselflovefix. I’d love to hear what you thought of this episode and what your major takeaways were. Head over to my website to learn more about how we can work together to shift your energy & transform your life. Sign up for Indulgent and Balanced™, a guilty-pleasure, FREE monthly newsletter filled with tips, honey, and sweetness designed to help you experience a delicious and pleasure-filled life FIRST so that you can take action from an aligned place: https://bold-hill-3643.ck.page/87dcb0b30c Join The Shameless Societea, where luxe bitches get together and learn to hold themselves to a higher standard, to be celebrated, to be supported, and to expand through community and vulnerability. This is where you come home to yourself. Welcome HOME. https://www.facebook.com/groups/theshamelesssocietea
219. Why You're Not "Doomed" to "Being Single Forever" + Why God is Not Out to Get You
21-09-2023
219. Why You're Not "Doomed" to "Being Single Forever" + Why God is Not Out to Get You
“God must be out to get me.” “This must be some kind of cosmic joke.” “You know what? Fine. I don’t want a relationship anyway.” “I’m focusing on my career. I don’t need a man.” If any of these sound familiar, then this episode is for you. If you’re the kind of person who truly enjoys being single…good for you! But if you’re saying you’re fine with being single, then absolutely SEETHING with anger and bitterness every time you see a happy couple… I don’t think you’re being honest with yourself. If you say you don’t want a relationship when you actually do, you become the thing that’s sabotaging you. Because when you decide you don’t want something…God’s going to listen. And pretending you don’t care isn’t going to trick him into giving you what you want. This might be a confronting episode for you, but as someone who’s been where you are…trust me. Once you come face to face with the truth of your desires, your dating life will NEVER be the same.   WORK WITH BEATRICE: Get access to the replay of OBSESSION, a TRANSFORMATIONAL masterclass on how to transcend out of comparing yourself to EVERYONE and into feeling MORE THAN SECURE + IN LOVE with where you are currently at in life, love, and business: https://beatricekamau.thrivecart.com/obsession-masterclass/    CONNECT WITH BEATRICE: Sign up to receive daily tips over a period of 5 days on how to attract men who desire COMMITMENT–because they DO exist: https://bold-hill-3643.ck.page/2ee1aa3101  Be sure to connect with me more on Instagram @theselflovefix. I’d love to hear what you thought of this episode and what your major takeaways were. Head over to my website to learn more about how we can work together to shift your energy & transform your life. Sign up for Indulgent and Balanced™, a guilty-pleasure, FREE monthly newsletter filled with tips, honey, and sweetness designed to help you experience a delicious and pleasure-filled life FIRST so that you can take action from an aligned place: https://bold-hill-3643.ck.page/87dcb0b30c Join The Shameless Societea, where luxe bitches get together and learn to hold themselves to a higher standard, to be celebrated, to be supported, and to expand through community and vulnerability. This is where you come home to yourself. Welcome HOME. https://www.facebook.com/groups/theshamelesssocietea
218. Transcending Comparison in Business, Relationships, + Dating
14-09-2023
218. Transcending Comparison in Business, Relationships, + Dating
I love delving into the shadowy parts of ourselves that no one likes to talk about…comparison being one of them. We all compare ourselves to others. We all feel envious of someone else’s successes, both in business and in relationships…especially when they’re in the same industry as us. And I don’t think these experiences are wrong…but when we lie about it to ourselves and refuse to OWN what we’re thinking and feeling, that’s when it becomes a problem. When we try to pretend we aren’t playing the comparison game, we actually end up unconsciously letting it steal it the driver’s seat…and before we know it, our businesses are being run by our perceptions of what others have achieved and what we think we’re doing “wrong.” There are ways to quit the comparison game…and it starts with looking for places where we might be acting a liiittle entitled. Let’s examine this together.   WORK WITH BEATRICE: Join OBSESSION, a TRANSFORMATIONAL masterclass on how to transcend out of comparing yourself to EVERYONE and into feeling MORE THAN SECURE + IN LOVE with where you are currently at in life, love, and business: https://beatricekamau.thrivecart.com/obsession-masterclass/    CONNECT WITH BEATRICE: Be sure to connect with me more on Instagram @theselflovefix. I’d love to hear what you thought of this episode and what your major takeaways were. Head over to my website to learn more about how we can work together to shift your energy & transform your life. Sign up for Indulgent and Balanced™, a guilty-pleasure, FREE monthly newsletter filled with tips, honey, and sweetness designed to help you experience a delicious and pleasure-filled life FIRST so that you can take action from an aligned place: https://bold-hill-3643.ck.page/87dcb0b30c Join The Shameless Societea, where luxe bitches get together and learn to hold themselves to a higher standard, to be celebrated, to be supported, and to expand through community and vulnerability. This is where you come home to yourself. Welcome HOME. https://www.facebook.com/groups/theshamelesssocietea
217. Business vs. Brand: Why You Need BOTH, Even on Day ONE of Business
07-09-2023
217. Business vs. Brand: Why You Need BOTH, Even on Day ONE of Business
Let me ask you a question… What is BRAND? If you answered, “Colors, fonts, and logos”...no judgment here. There was a hot minute when I believed the very same. In actuality, these things are brandING, not BRAND. But when so many people start out in entrepreneurship, they come in business-minded, not brand-minded…and when they look for steps to skip, brandING can take the place of actual brand. If you’re just now learning you were wrong about brand, don’t panic–that’s why I’m having this conversation today. It’s not too late for you to go back to the basics…and once you know what brand really is, trust me, you’ll want to. If you’re committed to LEGACY VIBES with your business, brand is your new best friend. Allow me to introduce you.   WORK WITH BEATRICE: My 1:1 coaching containers are where we go DEEP– where your depth + expansion meet and merge. Where I both meet you in your deepest levels of vulnerability, and hold you to the potential I know you’re capable of. Apply for 1:1 coaching below:  CLICK HERE FOR 1:1 COACHING (OR VISIT https://beatricekamau.com/programs AND SCROLL TO PRIVATE COACHING) CONNECT WITH BEATRICE: Be sure to connect with me more on Instagram @theselflovefix. I’d love to hear what you thought of this episode and what your major takeaways were. Head over to my website to learn more about how we can work together to shift your energy & transform your life. Sign up to receive daily tips over a period of 5 days on how to attract men who desire COMMITMENT–because they DO exist: https://bold-hill-3643.ck.page/2ee1aa3101  Sign up for Indulgent and Balanced™, a guilty-pleasure, FREE monthly newsletter filled with tips, honey, and sweetness designed to help you experience a delicious and pleasure-filled life FIRST so that you can take action from an aligned place: https://bold-hill-3643.ck.page/87dcb0b30c Join The Shameless Societea, where luxe bitches get together and learn to hold themselves to a higher standard, to be celebrated, to be supported, and to expand through community and vulnerability. This is where you come home to yourself. Welcome HOME. https://www.facebook.com/groups/theshamelesssocietea
216. Strong Business Mindset, Foundations, + Legacy with Tayla Bubeck
31-08-2023
216. Strong Business Mindset, Foundations, + Legacy with Tayla Bubeck
Please join me in welcoming Tayla Bubeck, an INCREDIBLE business coach + mentor…in fact, she’s so incredible that she’s MY business coach + mentor! Tayla specializes in the human behind the business, the execution of strategy for a scalable business, and leveraging personal brands to maximize opportunities and evolution. She helps powerful players in the online world unleash their unique gifts and full potential in business and helps them create a business space where money and success aren't their limits; instead, they become the makers of your limitless business legacy. If you’re struggling to get your VISION straight, build a strong business foundation, and understand what you want your legacy to be…Tayla’s your girl. I can’t wait for you to hear what she has to share today.   CONNECT WITH TAYLA: Instagram: @taylbubeck_ Podcast: https://open.spotify.com/show/6S7mzVSmbfzXaDuLN8H2Nv   WORK WITH TAYLA: Website: https://www.taylabubeck.com/   WORK WITH BEATRICE: Join Self Trust Alchemy, a 16 week group program designed to help you alchemize self-doubt, overwhelm, and overthinking to NEXT-LEVEL self-trust in your ability to set boundaries, achieve your goals, and use your voice: https://beatricekamau.thrivecart.com/self-trust-alchemy/    CONNECT WITH BEATRICE: Be sure to connect with me more on Instagram @theselflovefix. I’d love to hear what you thought of this episode and what your major takeaways were. Head over to my website to learn more about how we can work together to shift your energy & transform your life. Sign up for Indulgent and Balanced™, a guilty-pleasure, FREE monthly newsletter filled with tips, honey, and sweetness designed to help you experience a delicious and pleasure-filled life FIRST so that you can take action from an aligned place: https://bold-hill-3643.ck.page/87dcb0b30c Join The Shameless Societea, where luxe bitches get together and learn to hold themselves to a higher standard, to be celebrated, to be supported, and to expand through community and vulnerability. This is where you come home to yourself. Welcome HOME. https://www.facebook.com/groups/theshamelesssocietea