In this episode, we are joined by special guest Dr. Jonathan Caspi, an internationally recognized sibling expert and family therapist. Dr. Caspi dives deep into the intricate dynamics of sibling relationships, shedding light on the complexities of sibling conflict, comparisons, and the ever-present vying for parental attention.As we engage with Dr. Caspi in a thought-provoking conversation that touches on how sibling comparisons and parental pressures shape behavior and self-identity. Listeners will gain an understanding of how allowing children to pursue different interests can mitigate sibling rivalry and foster individuality.Dr. Caspi shares personal anecdotes and research-backed insights on how sibling conflict is normal but warns against normalizing physical violence. He powerfully discusses the under-recognized issue of sibling abuse, its higher prevalence compared to parental abuse, and the contributing factors such as favoritism and marital conflict. The episode also explores the significance of setting clear behavioral expectations and rules to cultivate positive sibling interactions.HighlightsNormalcy and Risks of Sibling ConflictThe Prevalence and Causes of Sibling AbuseParental Intervention in Sibling ConflictsLong-term Effects of Sibling ConflictsEvolutionary Perspective on Sibling RivalryParental Strategies for Managing ConflictSHOW NOTES: https://www.lifesdirtylittlesecretspodcast.com/episodes/Secret-28-Sibilings-with-Dr-Jonathan-Caspi Subscribe to Life's Dirty Little Secrets YouTube Channel!

In this thought-provoking episode, we are joined by the insightful guest, Jennifer Kemp, a clinical psychologist who specializes in neurodivergence with a focus on autism and ADHD. Jennifer delves deep into the world of neurodivergent adults, especially undiagnosed women, and highlights the transformative power of accepting and embracing one's neurodivergent identity.From discussing the critical importance of reliable resources to navigating the healthcare system's gatekeeping, Jennifer provides invaluable guidance and information. Listeners will also benefit from Jennifer's expertise on the often-misunderstood symptoms and challenges of ADHD and autism, as well as strategies for self-compassion and self-advocacy.Our conversation sheds light on overcoming the stigmas of neurodivergence and the essential steps toward living more authentically. Whether you are neurodivergent or seeking to understand more about neurodiversity, this episode is packed with information that empowers and educates.Highlights:Introduction to NeurodivergenceChallenges Faced by Neurodivergent IndividualsDiagnosing Autism and ADHDImportance of Understanding and Validating NeurodivergenceLiving Authentically with NeurodivergenceAbout Jennifer Kemp:Visit Jennifer’s website Purchase The ACT Workbook for PerfectionismOrder the The Neurodivergent Skills Workbook for Autism and ADHDJennifer Kemp BSc(Psych)Hons, MPsych(Clinical), GradDipApplSc(Psychology of Coaching), MAPS, FCCLPJennifer Kemp is a privately practicing Clinical Psychologist based in Adelaide who works with older adolescents and adults experiencing perfectionism, eating disorders, obsessive-compulsive disorder (OCD), and chronic illness. The majority of her clients are neurodivergent, so using a neurodiversity-affirming approach, Jennifer weaves together acceptance and commitment therapy (ACT), behavioural and compassion-focused approaches with her own lived experience, to help her clients improve their mental health and develop greater self-compassion, self-acceptance, and pride in their neurodivergent identity.Jennifer juggles clinical practice with writing, presenting, and clinical supervision. Jennifer is the co-author of “The Neurodivergent Skills Workbook for Autism and ADHD: Cultivate Self-Compassion, Live Authentically, and Be Your Own Advocate,” which is due for release in July 2024, and author of “The ACT Workbook for Perfectionism: Build Your Best (Imperfect) Life Using Powerful Acceptance & Commitment Therapy and Self-Compassion Skills.”Follow us on Facebook @lifesdirtylittlesecretspodcast and on Instagram @lifesdirtylittlesecretsReach out and let us know you are listening and what you would like to hear on the show - email:lifesdirtylittlesecretspodcast@gmail.com

In today’s revealing episode, we welcome Dr. Amy Beddows, a leading expert with a Ph.D. focused on victim-blaming within the context of sexual violence. Providing a compelling exploration of this societal phenomenon, Dr. Beddows dissects the multifaceted layers of victim guilt and its profound implications on survivors.Venturing deep into the grim reality where predators often escape accountability, our guest exposes the strenuous challenges victims face from systemic inefficiencies. From the understaffed support agencies to the emotional strain on police, barristers, and counselors, the episode unveils the heartbreaking burden on those seeking justice.Join us as Dr. Beddows also addresses how victim-blaming maintains patriarchal structures, obstructing societal progress and diverting essential funding from victim services.Together, we confront the distressing impact of cognitive dissonance and emotional distress among victims and acknowledge the unspoken consequences of burnout and cynicism among professionals. Shedding light on the intricate web of sexism, racism, and ableism that exacerbates victim-blaming, this episode stands as a call to action for empathy and systemic reform.The Societal Impact of Victim BlamingVictim Blaming Across Various SituationsDr. Amy Beddows' Research InsightsAgency and Support Service ChallengesService Provider Challenges and BurnoutThe Role of Compassion and Human ConnectionLearn more about this episode:https://www.lifesdirtylittlesecretspodcast.com/episodes/secret-26-victim-blame-with-amy-beddowsSubscribe to Life's Dirty Little Secrets YouTube Channel!

In this episode of Life's Dirty Little Secrets, we delve into the multifaceted concept of "Sisu" with our esteemed guest, Dr. Elisabet Lahti, the founder of Sisu Lab and an educator devoutly studying this Finnish philosophy. Dr. Lahti unravels the threads of extraordinary determination encapsulated in Sisu, a reserve of power each of us harbors for life's most challenging moments.Embarking on a journey through the psyche, this discussion explores the engaging intersection between Sisu and human progress, analyzing how one's action mindset and courage can transform perceived impossibilities into stepping stones for personal growth. Dr. Lahti constructs a compelling narrative around Sisu as an embodied somatic fortitude, distinguishing it from cognitive traits like passion or resilience.However, this episode isn't just about the strengths of Sisu. Dr. Lahti candidly discusses its potential dark side—when determination morphs into stubbornness or when excess grit leads to burnout, revealing the fine line between fortitude and fragility.Introduction to Dr. Elisabet Lahti and the Concept of SisuThe Core Elements of SisuSisu in the Face of Adversity and Personal ChallengesSisu and Acceptance and Commitment TherapyCommitment and Courage in SisuThe Balance of Determination and GentlenessSHOW NOTES: https://www.lifesdirtylittlesecretspodcast.com/episodes/Secret-25-Gentle-Power-with-Dr-Elisabet-LahtiSubscribe to Life's Dirty Little Secrets YouTube Channel!

In this episode, we welcome the insightful Katie Palmer, a renowned educational consultant and parenting coach, who dives deep into the controversial and emotional topic of parental favoritism. Katie invites listeners to explore the reluctant admittance of having a 'favorite child' and the potential psychological impact this taboo subject can have on family dynamics.This episode peels back the layers on the challenging issue of fair versus equal treatment and the intricacies of parenting. Discover how balancing different needs does not invariably equate to equitable treatment and why understanding this distinction is fundamental in nurturing well-rounded individuals.Listeners will find themselves deeply engrossed in personal anecdotes and expert insights that shine a light on the internal struggles parents face when connecting with their offspring. Especially poignant is the examination of shared values, teenage rebellion, and the constant negotiation of needs and values within the family structure.Highlights:Insights on reluctance in admitting favoritism among childrenThe Emotional Challenges of Parenting and FairnessThe Favorite Child: Parental Perspectives and DilemmasBalancing Values, Needs, and Relationship DynamicsFairness vs. Equality: Understanding the DistinctionSHOW NOTES: https://www.lifesdirtylittlesecretspodcast.com/episodes/Secret-24-The-Favorite-Child-with-Katie-PalmerSubscribe to Life's Dirty Little Secrets YouTube Channel!Resources Mentioned in this episode:A study on the notion of a “favorite child” from Purdue UniversityAn article on parent favoritism from The Institute for Family StudiesTwo books by Anthony Wolf:Mom, Jason’s breathing on me: The solution to sibling bickering. Ballantine Books. (2003).It’s not fair, Jeremy Spencer’s parents let him stay up all night: A guide to the tougher parts of parenting. Farrar, Straus and Giroux . (1996).Siblings without rivalry:  How to Help Your Children Live Together So You Can Live Too. W. W. Norton & Company; Revised edition (2012).  by Adele Faber and Elaine Mazlish·

In this enlightening Life's Dirty Little Secrets episode hosts Emma Waddington and Chris McCurry delve deep with the Buddhist philosopher, Stephen Batchelor on navigating ethical dilemmas in a world bound by societal norms. In this episode, Stephen challenges listeners to find courage and clarity in uncertainty, and to embrace radical self-acceptance as a means to thoughtful, compassionate living.Touching on the need for like-minded communities amid the decline of traditional institutions, this episode encourages individuals to consciously forge new support systems. Stephen's call for a personal approach to spirituality and ethics resonates throughout the discussion, advocating for a non-binary grasp of morality.Tune in to explore the balance between individual beliefs and societal pressures, and how meditation groups can anchor us in a turbulent sea of systemic issues. "Good and Evil with Stephen Batchelor" is a must-hear for those wrestling with life's complex ethical questions.Highlights:The Nature of Ethical ChoicesPersonal Values vs. Societal PressuresInner Values and IntuitionStress, Binary Thinking, and LanguageSelf-Acceptance and GrowthTimestamps:[00:00] Striking similarities in inner struggles, liberating experience.[05:07] Overwhelmed by thoughts, emotions, habits, regrets, grudges. Ethical uncertainty.[06:35] Striving for best intentions often leads astray.[12:58] Ethics is about becoming the best version of oneself.[14:25] Ethics is about shaping and forming oneself.[18:29] Tradition must adapt to the changing world.[23:45] Ethics and imagination crucial for societal change.[26:02] Encouraging tough questions, creativity, and ethical change.[28:20] Marvel at the mysterious complexity of human society.[33:07] Influential counterculture can inspire real societal change.[36:22] Challenging binary thinking for ethical understanding.[41:35] Language reinforces binary habits, rooted in evolution.[43:58] Radical self-acceptance is vital in ethical training.[46:48] Focus on non-reactive attention, ethics, community bonds.[50:27] Navigating questions, offering support, creating understanding.About Stephen BatchelorStephen Batchelor is a former monk in the Tibetan and Zen traditions. He has translated Shantideva’s A Guide to the Bodhisattva’s Way of Life and is the author of Alone with Others, The Faith to Doubt, The Tibet Guide, The Awakening of the West, Buddhism without Beliefs, and Verses from the Center. He is a contributing editor of Tricycle magazine, a guiding teacher at Gaia House Retreat Centre, and cofounder of Sharpham College for Buddhist Studies and Contemporary Inquiry in Devon, England. He lives in southwest France and lectures and conducts meditation retreats worldwide.Related ResourcesLearn more about Stephen BatchelorOrder your copy of the Art of Solitude and Living with the DevilEpisodes mentioned -Secret #2: We Are Not Alone with Martin WilksSecret #17: Adolescenting  - How to be an Adolescent with Dr. Louise Hayes

Join hosts Emma Waddington and Chris McCurry, alongside esteemed guest Dr. Patricia Zurita Ona (affectionately known as Dr. Z), as they delve deep into the intricate maze of perfectionism. Together, they unravel the complexities that drive our relentless pursuit of flawlessness and the hidden costs it entails.Dr. Z opens the discussion by dissecting the motivations behind perfectionistic tendencies, from a profound care for one's work to the haunting fear of failure and the rigid adherence to internalized rules. As she shares fascinating insights from her clinical experience, you'll learn about the crucial need to examine these often subconscious guidelines that forge our actions and shape our lives.The hosts also reflect on societal pressures and the intricate balance of caring for others while nurturing self-compassion. They converse about the paradox of promoting self-care when society often glorifies self-sacrifice, and Emma candidly shares her own journey toward understanding that self-kindness manifests in various, sometimes unexpected, forms.Dr. Z advocates for a balanced approach to high achievement by laying bare a comical yet relatable anecdote about her quest for the perfect TV - a metaphorical invitation for listeners to contemplate when to aim for the stars and when 'good enough' truly suffices.Highlights:Understanding PerfectionismThe Concept of the "Maximizer"Self-Compassion and Self-CareSocial and Interpersonal PerfectionismRadical Acceptance and Personal ValuesTimestamps:[00:00] Fear of failure and rigid rules controlling behavior.[05:18] Understanding client's struggles, mind's protective patterns.[10:21] Dismissing standards invalidates and fosters fear.[12:53] Caring about values & flexibility in actions.[15:58] Approach tasks with fear or expansion.[18:52] Reflect on motivations driving urges and choices.[22:49] Teenager's stress due to late-night studying.[26:09] Helping people with self-compassion and growth.[28:46] Prioritizing health, limitations, and personal connections.[31:41] Struggling to balance responsibilities and emotions.[35:39] Taking ownership of what matters is liberating.[40:55] Advising on decision-making: maximize or satisfy?About Dr. Zurita OnaListen to Dr. Z’s Playing-It-Safe PodcastRead Dr. Z’s book Acceptance and Commitment Skills for Perfectionism and High-Achieving Behaviors: Do Things Your Way, Be Yourself, and Live a Purposeful LifeVisit Dr. Z’s Website

In this episode of "Life's Dirty Little Secrets," hosts Emma Waddington and Chris McCurry invite Kristen Campbell, a clinical psychosexual therapist, to delve deep into the secrets of our sexual selves. From exploring the emotional neglect in previous generations to the importance of personal responsibility for pleasure, this episode promises to challenge deeply ingrained societal messages around sexuality and provide valuable insights.Kristen touches on the lack of investment in sexual development as people grow, leading to anxiety and feelings of inadequacy in partnered experiences. She emphasizes the importance of personal responsibility for pleasure and the need to learn about sexual experiences on one's own to reduce pressure. Together with Emma and Chris, she advocates for cultivating healthy sexual practices from childhood through adulthood, while addressing the taboo and societal beliefs surrounding sexual development.Join the hosts and guest as they discuss the impact of mismatched libido in couples, the need for open conversations about sexual desires, and the importance of giving oneself permission to explore and discover what truly brings pleasureHighlights:Importance of Personal Responsibility in Sexual DevelopmentParental Guidance and Children's Sexual DevelopmentCultivating a Healthy Masturbation PracticeEffort in Sexual RelationshipsTalking with Children about Bodies and PleasureResources:Family Planning Queensland - Traffic Light Resource - Sexual BehaviorsSecret #8: The Taboo of Sex with Kristen CampbellAbout Kristen CampbellVisit Kristen’s website: http://www.kristencampbell.com.au/aboutI have been working as a Social Worker for 15 years and have worked in a range of settings including mental health (inpatient & community services) and interpersonal trauma (sexual assault & domestic violence). In the last 7-8 years I have been working in Private Practice, providing therapy to both individuals and couples. I currently specialise in Sex & Relationship therapy, but continue to be passionate about the impact of trauma and adverse events in people’s lives and how this impacts attachments to other people and effects day to day functioning. I also hold a teaching role with the University of Sydney, within the Sexual & Reproductive Health faculty.I aim to provide a space where people can feel safe, brave and supported as they navigate the challenges in their relationships and their lives. I am a big believer that we develop responses to situations we find ourselves in, so you will find my approach non-pathologising and I work to collaborate with you in understanding what has happened in your life and how to move forward with your goals.I will be a good fit for those who are wanting a direct, empathic approach and for those who have developed their goals and believe in their capacity for change.

In this episode, we delve into the controversial notion of "normal." Renowned psychologist, Dr. Steven C. Hayes, challenges the traditional understanding of normalcy, and exposes its historical ties to eugenics and the distortion by scientists for over a century.Dr. Hayes advocates for a shift from standardized, one-size-fits-all treatment plans, instead, highlighting the importance of individual differences and the need for personalized approaches in therapy and medicine.Join us as we explore the implications of embracing individual diversity and the potential for AI tools to tailor treatments based on individual choices. This thought-provoking discussion sheds light on the complexities of mental health and the importance of valuing individual voices in a world obsessed with the concept of "normal."Highlights:Dr. Steve Hayes' Critique of Statistical Models and Emphasis on Individual DifferencesThe Concept of "Normal" and Its Historical ContextEmbracing Common Humanity and the Myth of "Normal" Versus "Broken" IndividualsPersonalization in Mental Health and Behavioral HealthUse of Technology and Data for Personalized PsychologyAbout Dr. Steven C. HayesCheck out Dr. Hayes Youtube ChannelJoin Psychflex - Get first 30 days for freeVisit Institute For Better healthFollow Dr. Hayes on LinkedinVisit Dr. Hayes website and get his free newsletterDr. Steven C. Hayes is an Emeritus Professor of Psychology at the University of Nevada, Reno and President of the Institute for Better Health, a nearly 50-year old charitable organization dedicated to better mental and behavioral health. He is also the author of 48 books and over 700 scientific articles, originator of Acceptance and Commitment Therapy and Relational Frame Theory, and co-founder of Process-Based Therapy and of PsychFlex.Dr. Hayes has been President of the Association for Behavioral and Cognitive Therapies and the Association for Contextual Behavioral Science, among other scientific groups. His work has been recognized by several awards, including the Lifetime Achievement Award from the Association for Behavioral and Cognitive Therapies and the Impact of Science on Application Award from the Society for the Advancement of Behavior Analysis. A Fellow of the American Association for the Advancement of Science, he is one of the most cited psychologists in the world.

For season 2 of "Life's Dirty Little Secrets" podcast, hosts Chris McCurry and Emma Waddington express the importance of embracing our fallibility in a society that often rewards pretending to be perfect.They give a sneak peek of the exciting conversations lined up for the upcoming season, featuring guests and topics such as Steve Hayes (myth of normalcy), Kristen Campbell (our sexual selves), Elisabeth Lahti (the Finnish concept of sisu), Dr. Zurita (the downsides of perfectionism), and Stephen Batchelor (the duality of good and evil) and more.Don't miss out on this insightful and engaging podcast that delves into the depths of human existence by exploring life's dirty little secrets with honesty and compassion. Follow, rate, and review the podcast on your preferred platform to help spread the word and reach new listeners.Follow us on Facebook @lifesdirtylittlesecretspodcast and on Instagram @lifesdirtylittlesecretsReach out and let us know you are listening and what you would like to hear on the show - email:lifesdirtylittlesecretspodcast@gmail.com

In the season 1 finale of Life's Dirty Little Secrets, hosts Emma Waddington and Chris McCurry explore the profound complexities of embracing change and fostering personal growth. Through candid and introspective discussions, they delve into the challenges of self-doubt, imposter syndrome, and the transformative power of second-order change.Drawing from their experiences and insights gained throughout the past year of podcasting, Emma and Chris reflect on the invaluable lessons learned and express gratitude for the privilege of witnessing the genuine human experiences shared on their show. They also offer a glimpse into the forthcoming Season 2, tantalizing listeners with the promise of deeper exploration and engaging discourse.Tune in as Emma and Chris guide listeners through the intricacies of life's less-discussed nuances, inspiring introspection and a renewed appreciation for the journey of self-discovery.Highlights:Importance of Conversations and Understanding in RelationshipsThe Role of Wonder and Curiosity in AdulthoodCultural Emphasis on Productivity and RecognitionLetting Go of Control and Focusing on EffortsBody Image, Self-Esteem, and BurnoutReflections on the Podcast's Past YearEmbracing Discomfort for GrowthFollow us on Facebook @lifesdirtylittlesecretspodcast and on Instagram @lifesdirtylittlesecretsReach out and let us know you are listening and what you would like to hear on the show - email:lifesdirtylittlesecretspodcast@gmail.com

In this episode of "Life's Dirty Little Secrets," join hosts Emma Waddington and Chris McCurry as they dive into the world of adolescence, exploring its challenges, growth opportunities, and the curious minds that define it. Joined by special guest Louise Hayes, a clinical psychologist and author, they discuss why adults struggle with adolescents, the importance of embracing mistakes and taking risks, and the power of curiosity and creativity. They also touch on Louise's volunteer work with the Pearl Trust, a charity helping children in Nepal. Get ready to embrace your inner adolescent and discover the secrets to navigating life's messy moments on this thought-provoking episode.Highlights:Adolescence and the Importance of Discovery and Risk-TakingNurturing a Sense of Wonder and Openness as AdultsAdult Struggles with AdolescentsLouise Hayes' Work and Involvement with Pearl TrustReflecting on Growing Up and Remembering What It's Like to Be a KidChallenges of Parenting and Respecting Adolescents' AutonomyAbout Dr. Louise HayesVisit Dr. Hayes’ websiteDr Louise Hayes is a clinical psychologist, author, international speaker, and educator. She is a Fellow and Past President of the Association for Contextual Behavioural Science. Louise currently holds a position as Adjunct Senior Research Fellow at La Trobe University, where she collaborates on projects using contextual behavioural science. She is a peer-reviewed Acceptance and Commitment Therapy/Training (ACT) trainer engaged in training professionals worldwide. Together with Joseph Ciarrochi, she developed DNA-v, a leading acceptance and commitment therapy model that has sparked international studies. In 2022 she released a new book for helping adults thrive in the face of change – What Makes You Stronger. She is the co-author of two best-selling books for young people – Get Out of Your Mind and Into Your Life for Teenagers; and Your Life Your Way. She is also the co-author of the practitioner book, The Thriving Adolescent. Louise is an active clinician, working with adults and adolescents. Louise’s passion project and the highlight of her work is establishing a not-for-profit endeavour of taking professionals on the journey of their life into the Himalayas to develop their mindful way of being while raising funds to help children in remote Nepal. She is also a certified Buddhist meditation teacher in the Dzogchen tradition.Follow us on Facebook @lifesdirtylittlesecretspodcast and on Instagram @lifesdirtylittlesecretsReach out and let us know you are listening and what you would like to hear on the show - email:lifesdirtylittlesecretspodcast@gmail.com

In this episode of "Life's Dirty Little Secrets," hosts Emma Waddington and Chris McCurry delve into the complexities and challenges of promoting autonomy in children. They are joined by special guest Emily Edlund, a clinical psychologist, academic, and author, who shares her experiences and insights on the topic. The conversation covers the importance of maintaining a trusting relationship during adolescence, the dangers of using the phone as a weapon in parenting, and the need for ongoing conversations about technology use. They discuss strategies for autonomy-supportive parenting, including empathy, problem-solving, and allowing independenceHighlights:The positive impact of allowing child autonomy and self-determinationChallenges and pitfalls of excessive control in parentingOngoing conversations about technology use and trendsCommon anxieties and challenges in letting go of controlDifferent parenting styles and concerns for successAbout Dr. Emily EdlynnCheck our Dr. Edlynn’s websiteFollow  @DrEmilyEdlynn on Instagram:Read Dr. Edlynn’s SubstackEmily Edlynn is a licensed clinical psychologist specializing in pediatric health psychology who works in private practice with children, teens, and adults. She has a BA in English from Smith College, a PhD in clinical psychology from Loyola University Chicago, and completed postgraduate training at Stanford and Children’s Hospital Orange County. Emily spent almost ten years working in children’s hospitals before pivoting to private practice, which allowed her to start a writing career. Emily has written her blog, The Art and Science of Mom, since 2017 and a parenting advice column for Parents.com since 2019. Emily’s writing has also appeared in the Washington Post, Scary Mommy, Good Housekeeping, Motherly, and more. She recently joined the Psychologists Off the Clock podcast as a co-host and is the author of a new book, Autonomy-Supportive Parenting: Reduce Parental Burnout and Raise Competent Confident Children. Emily lives with her husband, three children, and two rescue dogs in Oak Park, IL where she can see Chicago’s skyline from her attic window.Follow us on Facebook @lifesdirtylittlesecretspodcast and on Instagram @lifesdirtylittlesecretsReach out and let us know you are listening and what you would like to hear on the show - email:lifesdirtylittlesecretspodcast@gmail.com

In this episode of "Life's Dirty Little Secrets," hosts Emma Waddington and Chris McCurry dive deep into the topic of burnout with special guest, Dr. Debbie Sorensen. Burnout is a widespread issue in today's society, especially in chronically stressful roles such as the workplace, parenting, and caregiving. Dr. Sorensen sheds light on the importance of reconnecting with our values to combat burnout and regain vitality in our lives. Join us as we explore the misconceptions surrounding burnout, its impact on various professions, and the need for systemic changes to address this prevalent issue. Don't miss this eye-opening conversation about reclaiming purpose, finding relief, and nurturing our well-being in the face of burnout.Highlights:Understanding Burnout and its CausesReconnecting with ValuesBurnout in the Healthcare IndustryCoping Strategies for StressSupport and Relief from BurnoutDetachment and Disengagement as Coping MechanismsAbout Dr. Debbie SorensenVisit Dr. Sorensen’s websiteFollow Dr. Sorensen on TwitterCheck out @drdebbiesorensen Instagram accountI am a clinical psychologist with a private therapy practice in Denver, Colorado. I specialize in providing individual Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) and Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) for adults. My approach centers on helping my clients live a meaningful life, engage in effective behavior patterns, and have a healthy relationship with their thoughts and emotions.I am a co-author of the book ACT Daily Journal: Get Unstuck and Live Fully with Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, and a co-founder and co-host the popular psychology podcast Psychologists Off The Clock. On the podcast, we interview experts in the field of psychology and discuss ideas that can help people thrive.I have a Ph.D. in Psychology from Harvard University, and graduated summa cum laude with a bachelor’s degree in psychology and anthropology from the University of Colorado, Boulder. I completed an APA-accredited clinical psychology internship at the Edith Nourse Rogers Memorial Veterans Hospital in Bedford, Massachusetts. I then spent 12 years working as a psychologist on interdisciplinary medical teams at the VA Eastern Colorado Health Care System, where I worked with veterans with disabilities, chronic health conditions (including MS and ALS), and chronic pain. After that, I worked for about two years as a part-time Clinical Research Psychologist at the Rocky Mountain VA MIRECC for Suicide Prevention. I co-founded ImpACT Psychology Colorado, a psychotherapy collective in Denver/Boulder, and the Healthcare Wellbeing Collective, which provides mental health support and resources for Healthcare Professionals. I currently serve as a co-president of the Women’s Special Interest Group of the Association of Contextual Behavioral Science.

In this episode of Life’s Dirty Little Secrets,, we dive into the topic of motivation and how it can influence our ability to meet deadlines and make positive changes in our lives. Our guest, Michelle Drapkin, shares her personal struggles with motivation and explores various strategies she has tried to improve her time management skills. We also discuss the importance of autonomy and acceptance in motivating others, as well as the principles of motivational interviewing. Tune in to gain insights and practical tips for finding your own motivation and helping others find theirs.Highlights:Exploring Motivation and ChallengesPromoting Autonomy and Understanding OthersMotivational Interviewing and EmpowermentCore Concepts of Motivational InterviewingAddressing Anxiety and Developing MindfulnessMore about Dr. Michelle DrapkinVisit Dr. Drapkin’s websitePurchase The Motivational Interviewing Path to Personal Change: The Essential Workbook for Creating the Life You WantFollow Dr. Drapkin on LinkedinDr. Michelle Drapkin is the founder and director of the CBT Center. She is a board-certified clinical psychologist, licensed in New Jersey, New York, and Pennsylvania and part of the Psychological Interjurisdictional Compact (PSYPACT), which enables her to see patients virtually in almost 30 other states. Dr. Drapkin specializes in individuals (both late adolescents and adults), couples, and families. She strongly believes in developing the most effective treatment plan for each individual’s needs.Dr. Drapkin has held a variety of roles across different industries, including healthcare at Johnson & Johnson and academia as faculty at the University of Pennsylvania. She consults in the behavior science and health technology arenas and tries to stay on the bleeding edge of science-backed treatment approaches. She was featured recently by the Association of Behavioral and Cognitive Therapies (ABCT) and was interviewed on the Full Potential Movement.Follow us on Facebook @lifesdirtylittlesecretspodcast and on Instagram @lifesdirtylittlesecretsReach out and let us know you are listening and what you would like to hear on the show - email:lifesdirtylittlesecretspodcast@gmail.com

In this episode, join us as our guest, Jonathan Shippey, unpacks the secret of Happily Ever After. We explore the limerence phase and how couples can sustain it for up to two years without progressing. Unveiling the importance of building trust, we discuss how conflict can deepen knowledge and strengthen relationships. We also challenge the notion of "happily ever after" and explore the power of small adjustments in the present moment. Tune in as we reveal the secrets to a happy relationship and navigate the ups and downs of love together.Highlights:Understanding the phases of love in relationshipsThe role of conflict in building trustPersonal anecdotes and experiences with relationship challengesEmbracing the concept of "small things often"Challenging the idea of "happily ever after"Validating emotions and understanding in relationshipsMore About Jonathan ShippeyVisit Healing Bridge’s website: https://healingbridgetherapy.com/Follow Jonathan on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/JonathanShippeyLMFTJonathan Shippey has been a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist in private practice since 1999 and has served clients in the Louisville, Kentucky area since completion of his Master of Arts in Marriage & Family Therapy from Louisville Presbyterian Seminary in 1997. Jonathan also holds a Masters degree in music composition from Southern Seminary, as well as a Bachelors degree in biology from Furman University in Greenville, South Carolina.Jonathan is a Clinical Fellow with the American Association for Marriage and Family Therapy and is a Certified Gottman Couples Therapist and Workshop Leader, having been personally trained by Drs. John and Julie Gottman at their Seattle Relationship Institute. He regularly leads the “Art and Science of Love” weekend workshop for couples and the Level 1, 2,  3 Gottman Method trainings for clinicians. Jonathan is among a select few whom John and Julie have invited to assist with private retreats in their home on Orcas Island, Washington. He is one of only 25 Advanced Clinical Trainers worldwide so designated by the Gottman Institute and also serves as a Consultant for those wishing to become certified in the Gottman Method.Follow us on Facebook @lifesdirtylittlesecretspodcast and on Instagram @lifesdirtylittlesecretsReach out and let us know you are listening and what you would like to hear on the show - email:lifesdirtylittlesecretspodcast@gmail.com

In this episode we dive into the fascinating topic of imposter syndrome and psychological flexibility with guest expert, Dr. Jill Stoddard. Join us as we explore the discomfort of imposter syndrome and how being open and willing can lead to positive changes in our lives. Jill shares her unique therapy methods, involving mindful willingness experiences and exploring emotions, to help clients overcome imposter syndrome and embrace their true potential. We also discuss the societal and cultural factors that contribute to imposter syndrome and the importance of aligning our values with being bold and brave. Don't miss this insightful and empowering conversation on conquering imposter syndrome and living the life we truly desire.Highlights:Psychological Flexibility and Embracing DiscomfortOvercoming the Imposter PhenomenonTherapy Sessions and MethodsFactors contributing to Imposter SyndromeImposter Thoughts and their SignificancePromoting Psychological FlexibilityAbout Dr. Jill StoddardVisit Dr. Stoddard’s websiteFollow @jillastoddard on InstagramConnect with Dr. Stoddard on LinkedInJill Stoddard is passionate about sharing science-backed ideas from psychology to help people thrive. She is a psychologist, writer, TEDx speaker, award-winning teacher, peer-reviewed ACT trainer, and co-host of the popular Psychologists Off the Clock podcast. Dr. Stoddard is the author of three books: The Big Book of ACT Metaphors: A Practitioner’s Guide to Experiential Exercises and Metaphors in Acceptance and Commitment Therapy; Be Mighty: A Woman’s Guide to Liberation from Anxiety, Worry, and Stress Using Mindfulness and Acceptance; and Imposter No More: Overcome Self-doubt and Imposterism to Cultivate a Successful Career. Her writing has also appeared in Psychology Today, Scary Mommy, Thrive Global, The Good Men Project, and Mindful Return. She regularly appears on podcasts and as an expert source for various media outlets. She lives in Newburyport, MA with her husband, two kids, and disobedient French Bulldog.Follow us on Facebook @lifesdirtylittlesecretspodcast and on Instagram @lifesdirtylittlesecretsReach out and let us know you are listening and what you would like to hear on the show - email:lifesdirtylittlesecretspodcast@gmail.com

Many working parents feel that they aren’t doing a good enough job in any of the roles they fill. Instead of trying to get rid of parental guilt, in this real play, Dr. Diana Hill works with me to get more psychologically flexible with it. Diana will demonstrate each of the core processes of ACT and then debrief the role play and explore which interventions had the biggest impact.Highlights:A demonstration of each of the core psychological flexibility processesHow to develop more flexible awareness when experiencing guiltHow to practice acceptance with parental guiltAn exercise to increase self-compassionPerspective Taking to get out of your guilt storyA metaphor to help defuse your thoughtsThe link between guilt and your valuesHow parental guilt can be your mindfulness bellTwo psychologists debrief of an ACT real playMore about Dr. Diana HillDiana Hill, PhD is a clinical psychologist, international trainer and sought-out speaker on Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) and compassion. Host of the podcast Your Life in Process and co-author of ACT Daily Journal, Diana works with organizations, high-achievers, and health professionals who are committed to becoming psychologically flexible so that they can move from striving to thriving at work, home, and around the globe. Diana blogs for Psychology Today, is a guest teacher at InsightLA, Blue Spirit Costa Rica, PESI, Praxis Continuing Education and Insight Timer Meditation. A specialist in Acceptance and Commitment Training, Diana guides high achievers, leaders, and organizations to develop psychological flexibility so that they can take wise action toward more fulfilling and meaningful lives.Diana practices what she preaches in her daily life as a mom of two, bee guardian, and yoga practitioner.Follow us on Facebook @lifesdirtylittlesecretspodcast and on Instagram @lifesdirtylittlesecretsReach out and let us know you are listening and what you would like to hear on the show - email:lifesdirtylittlesecretspodcast@gmail.com

In this episode we are joined by special guest, Ana Waddington. Ana, a healthcare professional with first-hand experience in the violence reduction field, shares her insights on the challenges faced by those in the healthcare system and the toll it takes on their well-being. From the lack of debriefing opportunities to the housing crisis impacting patient care, Ana sheds light on the daily struggles healthcare workers face. The conversation also explores how moral injury extends beyond just healthcare professionals, affecting teachers and other helping professions. Listeners will gain a deeper understanding of the interconnectedness of trauma, burnout, and compassion fatigue, as well as the importance of addressing moral injury to provide proper support and resources for those on the frontlines. Don't miss this enlightening episode as we uncover the hidden costs of caring deeply in an often overwhelming system.Highlights:Debriefing and Psychological Support in HealthcareMoral Injury in HealthcareCoping with Trauma and BurnoutUnderstanding Moral InjuryChallenges in Healthcare SystemsFinding Joy and Addressing BurnoutMore About Ana Waddington:Follow Ana on Twitter: @alwaddingtonAna Waddington is a registered paediatric nurse with extensive experience in frontline emergency care, both in paediatrics and in adults. She is particularly passionate about adolescent care. She has worked in the emergency department of Europe's largest trauma centre. During the pandemic, Ana was seconded part time as the first paediatric nurse to work for the physicians response unit. She then proceeded to work as a trauma coordinator supporting patients through their trauma journey. She spent a year working as a critical care outreach nurse, stabilising the most sickest patients in the hospital. She is now pursuing her dream of working with the most vulnerable by being seconded to help set up a rough sleeper outreach team in Camden. Throughout her time as a nurse, she set up a not-for-profit called YourStance, in response to the growing amount of young people dying from stab wounds in London. YourStance, now in its 5th year, brings experienced frontline staff directly to the most vulnerable at risk young people to train them on how to save a life. She won RCN’s nurse of the year 2020, in the year of the nurse, as a result of this initiative. She also now lecturers at Queen Mary university in adolescents for the Paediatric Emergency Medicine masters. Ana is a keen (but slow) runner and loves to take long hikes with her partner and rescue dog.Follow us on Facebook @lifesdirtylittlesecretspodcast and on Instagram @lifesdirtylittlesecretsReach out and let us know you are listening and what you would like to hear on the show - email:lifesdirtylittlesecretspodcast@gmail.com

In this episode we are joined by special guest, Ana Waddington. Ana, a healthcare professional with first-hand experience in the violence reduction field, shares her insights on the challenges faced by those in the healthcare system and the toll it takes on their well-being. From the lack of debriefing opportunities to the housing crisis impacting patient care, Ana sheds light on the daily struggles healthcare workers face. The conversation also explores how moral injury extends beyond just healthcare professionals, affecting teachers and other helping professions. Listeners will gain a deeper understanding of the interconnectedness of trauma, burnout, and compassion fatigue, as well as the importance of addressing moral injury to provide proper support and resources for those on the frontlines. Don't miss this enlightening episode as we uncover the hidden costs of caring deeply in an often overwhelming system.Highlights:Debriefing and Psychological Support in HealthcareMoral Injury in HealthcareCoping with Trauma and BurnoutUnderstanding Moral InjuryChallenges in Healthcare SystemsFinding Joy and Addressing BurnoutMore About Ana Waddington:Follow Ana on Twitter: @alwaddingtonAna Waddington is a registered paediatric nurse with extensive experience in frontline emergency care, both in paediatrics and in adults. She is particularly passionate about adolescent care. She has worked in the emergency department of Europe's largest trauma centre. During the pandemic, Ana was seconded part time as the first paediatric nurse to work for the physicians response unit. She then proceeded to work as a trauma coordinator supporting patients through their trauma journey. She spent a year working as a critical care outreach nurse, stabilising the most sickest patients in the hospital. She is now pursuing her dream of working with the most vulnerable by being seconded to help set up a rough sleeper outreach team in Camden. Throughout her time as a nurse, she set up a not-for-profit called YourStance, in response to the growing amount of young people dying from stab wounds in London. YourStance, now in its 5th year, brings experienced frontline staff directly to the most vulnerable at risk young people to train them on how to save a life. She won RCN’s nurse of the year 2020, in the year of the nurse, as a result of this initiative. She also now lecturers at Queen Mary university in adolescents for the Paediatric Emergency Medicine masters. Ana is a keen (but slow) runner and loves to take long hikes with her partner and rescue dog.Follow us on Facebook @lifesdirtylittlesecretspodcast and on Instagram @lifesdirtylittlesecretsReach out and let us know you are listening and what you would like to hear on the show - email:lifesdirtylittlesecretspodcast@gmail.com